How to get your beloved's advice from a psychologist

For eight years I have been a constant witness of a very harmonious relationship: a friend with the diligence of a conscientious secretary informed me about how the novel is going on first, and then the family life. Honestly, I was happy for my friend and even slightly envied.

Because everything really developed, according to the instructions of beautiful female romance novels: bouquets about and without, lovely surprises, love notes, constant gentle hugs and fleeting kisses. Equally divided household duties, from time to time, even the morning coffee in bed, her husband gives her( and this is after 4 years of marriage and 2 years prior to the registry office of the joint life!).And then, like a bolt from a clear July evening, her friend resorts with tears in three streams, she does not look like herself.

In general, the story is banal, everything was fine and just wonderful, when the girl suddenly dawned that with the romance in their life it was completely depressing. Colleagues at work seemed to have arranged a conspiracy of silence: they looked meaningfully and broke off conversations in the smoking room, as soon as a friend joined them. Her spouse( working in the same company, though in different departments) all for some reason began to clap sympathetically on the shoulder and say "do not worry that she left you."

Girlfriend decided to figure out what's what, and asked her beloved directly what is going on. He left the conversation, but sent a short text message: "He fell in love with another, but he told everyone that you stopped loving me and left to save your self-esteem."

I read the messages, resented such impudence: I changed it myself, so I threw my wife and child. And she began the standard procedure of comfort, using everything available at home: she gave her friend a chance to cry, gave her strong coffee a snack with chocolate and creamy liqueur, and soaked new tears from her eyes with napkins. Also has suggested to solve a problem considerably: that is it is necessary to you this yours суженй after that has occurred? And if so, then let's search for information, how to return a loved one, if he is already with another?

How to return a beloved man

From my past life experience, I knew that the best way to win the attention of any man is to show him that he does not need you at all. Then he automatically turns on the old instinct of the hunter, afraid of losing his prey, and he actively rushes to conquer the woman again. Because, according to the code of man's nature, an already won girl who confesses love and prepares cheese cakes and eggs in the mornings becomes uninteresting.

The information was many and varied, but from the listed effective means, allowing to operate at a distance, the most effective friend appeared to be a prayer. My friend found the icon( still my grandmother's) Nicholas the Wonderworker at home and asked for help. Even the candles lit, though with the New Year's decor - there were no others in the house. I methodically surf the online resources in search of recipes for the restoration of relations.

For two weeks, the girlfriend tried "to return her beloved by force of thought", for this he had to tell his photos about his feelings every day for an hour. Partly she shared experiences with the photo, but for the most part she was pronounced personally to me. Then she held a rite, which is recommended after the parting, to attract the energy of love: she housed hearts and paired statuettes in the corners of the room, lit aromatic candles, read the mantra( she had to come up with herself, but to speak from the heart and the most cherished).

Then two days the girlfriend suffered over a letter to her beloved - according to a very strong remedy, especially if you write by hand, list the best moments of the previous life together and the first meeting, and at the end add a note about how much you love the former. .. that is,and tell you that without him you can not. In my opinion, this is a waste of time, but my friend was slightly distracted, writing in a rough handwriting( because of the experiences and the prescription of practice) sheet after sheet, drawing and rewriting. But the correspondence did not take place - the girl did not know the new address, but her husband took a vacation for a month at work. Under the influence of her creative impulse, I also tried to write poetry with a romantic halo, there were words about the chords of love, and about a lonely full moon, and about days blacker than black soil. My friend read, felt, cried, and I for the company with her.

10 golden simple rules

In my opinion, it does not matter what a person does in the period of mental anguish, the main thing is that he does something, and does not lie in the prostration on the couch. And any action can bring the desired result closer. For example, my girlfriend used the following:

1) I was fascinated by constructing my future with the help of "Medici solitaire" - there it is necessary to build a chain of certain events in order to get the desired result. The positive thing was that she, during her solitaire, managed to "fold" the gift - and literally in a day won some pennies in the lottery. Inspired, and even went to the beauty salon - for a new hairdo.

2) I found several online fortune tellers, guaranteeing a quick result, promising an instant spell and providing their magical services even without an advance payment. To turn the loved one into a family with their help did not work, but the girlfriend really became interested in esotericism, and began to actively educate on this matter. As a result, she, in her opinion, restored its energy balance, tuned in to positive thoughts and began not only to listen to more cheerful songs, but also began to dance with pleasure under them.

3) Then the girlfriend had an educational era: she purposely downloaded from the courses courses and trainings on how to return a loved one. "Together we watched three video courses of Victoria Vlasova, weighed in under the notes of Igor Latyshko, understood the causes of depression by the method of Boris Litvak. In fact, the re-examination of the technique for the return of men, described in the book "How to return a loved one" authors Oleg Ideal and Alena Volk. The note was followed by a study of the recommendations of Olga Chikankova on how to return a loved one. And why, then, "treatises" by Irina Mirova on how to return his wife.

4) According to my feelings, my friend and I could already lecture ourselves on this matter. But she continued to improve in being happy with the help of Mikhail Torsunov's training and raise her rating at the courses of Pavel Rakov.

5) Then on the new moon we made romantic amulets and held a ritual to bring to life a personal "female happiness"( for this we had to wipe with cold lunar water, and take an air bath, and smear an aromatic mixture of essential oils under a simple spell like "come tomy love and bring happiness with me ").

6) And to participate in two safe and quite innocuous rituals: clear the room of unnecessary things, and your life from negative thoughts. And then call your ex-wife on the phone and chat on neutral topics.

7) After this, there was a clear breakthrough in the situation, with one day in mind: the spouse invited a friend to drink coffee in the cafeteria during the lunch break. We must give credit to all these magical and psychologically receptions brought a certain result - the girlfriend stopped regretting herself and complained about her fate, freshened up, got prettier. She began to dance more actively under folklore motives and practice purifying dousing with cold water daily.

8) After co-drinking, the spouse invited her friend to take her home - she had long tried to catch him after a day with heavy bags and finally she succeeded. Knight in the familiar home atmosphere offered: a favorite salad with chicken in Greek, brewed in a special way tea and come back.

9) The husband thanked everyone for everything and left the thoughtful one, and the girlfriend, having thoroughly mastered the technique of Simoron, began to recite the funny rhymes of her own composition. In passing, ask for help from St. Matronushka. And to learn fortune-telling on tarot cards, and for some reason I managed to guess some married married man.

10) Her next day off girl dedicated to cleaning the house of unnecessary things( even trying to make an armchair) and filling it with love magic. I do not know what helped, but at the moment when the chair was firmly stuck in the elevator, her husband returned. He worked as a free loader, did some other male work in the house and, because he was very tired, asked to spend the night, they say, and the time is already late( only the beginning of the eleventh night).

What to do in order to restore confidence after a lie( psychology)

What helped a friend - I do not know, it was too complex already she came to her husband's return. Everything seems to have returned to the old circles, but the negative sediment still remained, although her husband apologized, and sincerely explained the reason for his act( they say, that girl herself jumped on him, so he lost his head), and sworn thatwill not happen again. But now it remains to begin to believe again and not to be paranoid because of the past.

But what if the man lost his confidence in you? A simple promise is not to get rid of it. You need to make it clear that his trust is very important to you. Be always sincere and be revealed to him, telling about secrets that were not available to anyone yet. This will help to breathe new notes into old relationships, where there was a place of lies.

And we continue the topic: how to return the guy you love( advice of a psychologist).

A proven way to "get rid of a rival"

A friend to her husband, of course, believed and forgave, but secretly developed a whole strategy to prevent the emergence of new lovers:

1) forbade her jealousy and control her man once and for all.
2) began to "mark" the home territory with the smells of fresh baked goods( her husband simply adores cinnamon rolls), and accidentally splashed his clothes with his spirits.
3) engaged in self-improvement to look busy, creative and interesting.
4) all the requirements for her husband began to sound in the form of a request, and at least once a day she indulged in his gratitude, compliments, or laudatory recall( especially with outsiders).
5) and most, most importantly, began to look at everything with a positive.