Today I tackled such a complicated topic that I had great doubts about whether I was driving it at all.
Well, is it true, does a woman have the right to give advice on how how to understand the men of ?
Maybe on such topics should write only the representatives of the stronger sex?
And yet, having collected the will in a fist, pouring out on the male forums and columns of famous male psychologists, invoking my own experience of communicating with gentlemen and enlisting the advice of my male acquaintances, I got down to business.
To understand a man is easier than we think
Forgive me, dear male readers, but I think you will agree that most of you think simply and rectilinearly.
For you, white is white, not "egg shell", "sea foam", "snow shade", etc.
We, women, trying to understand a man, often make the same mistake: we put ourselves in his place to understand the course of his thoughts or the meaning of his actions.
At the same time we forget that unlike us, emotional, possessing crazy logic and a lot of contradictions, the man is arranged completely differently.
In his words and deeds, do not look for a double bottom.
If a man says that the meat turned dry, then it should be understood literally and the next time you hold a piece of meat in a frying pan.
There is no need to build a strange chain: "The meat turned dry - probably, he has a mistress who cooks him better - he does not like me anymore - I need to get divorced."
How to become a good wife?
Share your thoughts with your husband, he would be terribly surprised, because he said only what he said, and - without any double bottom.
The more specific you put the task to a man, the easier you perceive his words, the less time you spend digging into yourself and in your relationships, the easier it will be for you to understand men and find happiness with a specific man.
Do not try to understand men, guided by the female logic
We, women, it seems quite logical that if we notice something, understand or see, then men should do the same.
And nothing like that!
It seems to us that the phrase "Ah, what a beautiful bag", said in front of the shop window, is a signal for action: to go, buy and present for the coming anniversary.
Most men take this phrase literally and simply agrees: "Yes, the bag is beautiful."
That's it!
If you really want to get this bag as a gift from your man, so tell him straight about it.
Why beat around the bush, and then take an offended view, because your loved one did not understand the hints?
Yes, too few men are able to understand them.
Or here is another example: one of the most favorite reasons for female offenses is the lack of a man's reaction to changes in your appearance.
A man does not pretend not to notice your new haircuts, he is not an egoist and not an inattentive dummy, his brain is simply arranged so as not to be overloaded over small things.
Avoiding conflicts on this ground is easy.
It only took me 3 months to figure it out.
Now, going to the hairdresser, I just tell my beloved about it.
He remembers where I went, and in the evening he meets me with compliments: "How beautiful you look, the new haircut goes to you."
Although the "new haircut" - this is just the updated tips, but men do not need to know this, because everyone is happy.🙂
How to understand men in love?
What is there to hide: we women are very fond of beautiful words, romantic confessions of love, ornate compliments and other sweetness.
Men who have these skills in perfection, once or twice - and obchelsya.
If a woman seldom hears the coveted words "I love you", she immediately starts composing in her head a script for a soap opera with a breaker, lost love, scandals, tears, a complicated divorce, broken heart.
But a man does not understand what's going on in your head, he does not understand why you need to hear compliments, caressing words and love confessions every day.
It seems to him that his concern for the family, respectful attitude to your parents, joint plans, problem solving, work at home and others speak about his love better than any words.
How do you know if a guy loves you?
Try to understand men correctly and accept them as they are.
In addition, it seems to me that many women tend to overestimate the power of words, so they often become victims of useless verbiage and are disappointed.
How to understand what men like?
If you can understand what most men like, then easily apply this knowledge in a relationship with your loved one.
Of course, you can not speak for all men, but I read before writing this article dozens of materials of male psychologists and consultations with my friends convinced me that men like when:
- A woman can be different depending on situations: passionate lover in bed,impeccable mistress of the house, a caring mother with children and her husband, a communicable lady in public.
- The last word remains for them in the dispute, and in general - in life.
- A woman does not encroach on their role as a breadwinner and patriarch.
- The house is always clean and smells of delicious food.
- They do not have to sacrifice a man's friendship or their hobby for the sake of a woman.
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A nearby woman understands their mood.
For example, if the husband is upset, you should understand this right away, and do not pester him with conversations. "Tell me, tell me what happened to you."
Itself will tell, when he deems it necessary!
- Their lady of the heart always looks perfect and continues to look after herself, no matter how many years in marriage you were not.
- Their woman has a certain set of qualities: kindness, loyalty, cheerfulness, solicitude, femininity, etc.
- A lady remains a lady, no matter what, and does not turn under the pressure of circumstances or on her own initiative into a peasant in a skirt.
- Spouse or girl believes in his soul mate, supports his undertakings and does not ridicule his ideas.
How to understand that men do not like?
More than once we groaned in the void: "How? !Well, that's how to understand these guys? !How to understand what they do not like and why they always throw me? ".
Male psychologists have tried to help women understand the men, explaining what the gentlemen do not like.
So, gentlemen do not like when:
- They are treated like small children, they try to feed from a spoon and iron on the head, they say, do not cry a little, my mother will punish bullies that offended my boy.
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To understand a woman nearby is a hundred times harder than solving a puzzle.
Men generally do not like it when everything is too difficult, therefore, pretending to be a fortress that you need to conquer, or letting yourself be mysterious, do not get too smart, otherwise your man instead of trying to understand you, will simply run away.
- They are pushed around, constantly taught how to do it correctly, and how not, they control every step and in general, try to get an easy form of tyranny at home.
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A woman is too easy prey and on the first or second date she goes to bed with him.
Similar behavior seems to most gentlemen to be too cheeky.
- The lady shows excessive initiative, both in the period of courtship, and in family life.
- Their second half too often makes them jealous or compete for it with other men.
- The lady is absolutely not interested in their opinion on the issues that they must solve together.
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Of course, it's hard to understand completely from these facts, how to understand the men, but I gave you some information for thinking( I hope so,at least 🙂).