Let's imagine a picture: some kind of public place where there are a lot of people.
You saw a beautiful girl - that's just the limit of all your dreams.
All you need to ask her on a date is to come and get acquainted.
But how to get acquainted with the girl so that she does not ridicule you, so she would not deny you because you are such a clumsy idiot so as not to spoil everything with her uncertainty?
The task, of course, is incredibly difficult and I, in truth, always sympathized with the guys who have to take the first steps, getting to know the girls they liked.
But what do you have to do?
Relying on chance?
Staying alone?
Looking for a smart girl who will do everything herself?
These are not options for a real man!
"Do you think it's easy to get acquainted with a girl? !"
In college years, he had quite a close friend-classmate.
Cute tall guy, smart, from a good family it would seem to be in great demand, especially in the faculty where girls predominate.
But somehow his personal life did not add up - all classmates preferred to see him as a friend.
I advised Igor to start getting acquainted with the girls outside our faculty.
He refused for a long time, inventing stupid excuses until I asked him straight: "What's the matter?"
It turns out that the guy had absolutely no idea how to start acquaintance with the girl, what to talk about with her, and in general - how to get courage and approach her.
We decided to go together to hunt in the city park.
Chose a pretty girl that I liked Igor, I sat down on the next shop and started to watch the process of their acquaintance because of the magazine.
From the first minutes I realized that this is a failure.
The cheerful guy with whom I chatted on almost any topic turned into a clamped botan who smiled crookedly and mumbled something unintelligible.
Naturally, the young lady refused him.
When the girl left, I decided to work on the mistakes my friend had, well, very much.
How not to start dating a girl?
If you consider my experience of first dating with guys and the picture that I watched from Igor, then I can safely conclude that most young people who do not manage to get acquainted with a girl can make the same mistakes.
If you want to start a successful acquaintance with a girl, do not:
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Be embarrassed.
Well, we do not like shy and insecure men.
This is agreed to go with this on a first date, then, God forbid, fall in love, and that - all your life show initiative and drag this embarrassing body on yourself?
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Cheerful.
The embarrassing tulip is a bad image to begin acquaintance with the girl, but you can not include the impudent boor - this will scare the lady away.
Find the golden mean.
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To mumble.
Tell me intelligible what you want.
Imagine that before you is not an unknown girl, but a girlfriend whom you know for a long time, but which for some reason has forgotten your name.
What would you say to her?
I think something like: "Hello. My name is Igor. Let's have coffee and chat. "
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Durkov.
Even if the skill witty joke - your main trump card, you do not need to turn into an absurd clown.
The young lady might think that you are making fun of her. -
To be persistent.
If you are refused, then do not insist on your own, and, do it aggressively.
Maybe you just did not like this girl( it happens), but maybe something really did not go wrong( than run into trouble, better work on the bugs).
How to start an acquaintance with a girl: the preparatory period
If you are reading this article, then you are not born with the ability to easily find contact with strangers, including - the opposite sex.
Do not be upset, it's not so hard to understand how to start dating an girl so that the result will be successful.
Take the first acquaintance, as to the interview.
Would you prepare for an interview to get the job of your dream?
Here and get acquainted with the girl of your dreams( even if you have not met her yet), too, after preliminary preparation.
Acquaintance with the girl will be successful if you are in advance:
- you will think over what you will tell her when you meet( learn "Hello. My name. .. etc" by heart so as not to forget what to say at the most crucial moment);
- rehearsing in front of the mirror a smile and facial expressions, so as not to grimace, like a monkey;
- will think about where to put your hands during a conversation( they somehow always get in the way).
And it's very important to put your appearance in order:
- to pump up the figure;
- start shaving daily;
- to reconsider the wardrobe;
- to make a fashionable haircut;
- buy a good perfume.
Cute well-groomed guys are much easier to achieve a woman's disposition than the ugly sluts.
3 rules how to start dating a girl
My friend Igor claimed that getting acquainted with a pretty girl is much more difficult than passing the most difficult exam or pass an interview to get the job of your dream.
In conversation, I found out that such a fear had formed when, while at school, a cruel beauty ridiculed him for wanting to get acquainted.
If you have the same problem, then first you need to get rid of your fears, which fetter you.
And still adhere to 3 rules to start dating the girl:
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Evaluate the actual situation.
Do not try to talk to a lady if the situation does not have it.
For example, a young lady walks with her boyfriend( do you need troubles?) Or she has fun in a big company of friends( it's worth catching a moment when she will be surrounded by as few people as possible, otherwise the hooting of the drunken crowd will destroy your efforts).
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Surprise her.
We love non-standard solutions.
For example:
- a bottle of good champagne;
- bouquet of flowers;
- serenade from a street musician;
- note transmitted by a cute baby in the park, and other creative ideas can melt our hearts.
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Show yourself an interesting companion.
Already from the first phrases she should understand that before her - not a brainless uneducated blockhead, but an interesting well-read guy with whom he will have something to talk about on a date.
What factors you need to consider when getting acquainted with a girl,
you will learn from the video:
3 more tips for those who do not know how to start dating a girl
I understand how difficult it is to start dating a girl, so I'll give you some more tips,which you will definitely need:
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Do you remember the proverb "Not according to Senka hat"?
I understand that sultry long-legged beauties in fashionable clothes like all guys, but if you drive to such a goddess, then she must match her both externally, internally, and financially.
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Tune to the positive.
If you approach a lady with shaking hands and thoughts: "She will definitely refuse me," then that's exactly what will happen.
You should approach it as a winner, that you are sure of a successful acquaintance with this particular beauty.
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Do not let go of your nose after a few failures.
Let one, the second and even the third refuse you, it does not matter.
Take a look around.
Do you see how many beautiful girls are around?
And among them there is definitely the one, the acquaintance with which will grow into a great and mutual love.
After working on the bugs Igor finally realized, how to start dating girls .
I'm confident that you, too, will be able to master this skill if you try a little.