How to stop loving a guy: 4 proven ways

Love is a great feeling.

You feel winged, you make plans for the future, you rejoice at every moment you spend together, do not notice minor troubles or bad weather.

And now, quite unexpectedly, a loved one throws you, for whatever reason - not so important.

The main thing is that you will not be together anymore.

There are two difficult tasks before you: to understand, how to stop loving the guy , who no longer loves you, and heal his broken heart to open up for a new relationship.

If you cope with the first, then the machine will be executed and the second.

Ways to achieve this is, but gather strength, because to drive out of your heart love - one of the most difficult cases that exist.

How to stop loving a guy - advice from a psychologist

I remember this disgusting feeling that embraces you right after losing a loved one.

On the one hand, you feel exhausted, incredibly tired and incapable any more, the interest to everything that used to be so expensive has been lost.

On the other hand, you feel angry that you have been treated so unfairly, you want to share your pain with someone, make others suffer, especially the guy who left you and you can not stop loving.

The most important thing in this situation is not to break firewood under the weight of pain.

Sooner or later you will return to yourself the ability to think sensibly and necessarily regret the perfect actions:

• drunken debauches;
• indiscriminate sexual relations;
• clarifying the relationship with the guy who became the source of your pain;
• pursuing him;
• attempts to beat his new girlfriend;
• scandals with close people who are trying to support you;
• dismissal from work;
• a failed session, etc.

Do not do anything of the above - it will not help you stop loving the guy!

It's better to do this:

1. Give yourself a day or two of your pain.

   Take a day off, cry for enough, eat something tasty and harmful for the figure, look at some melodramas, call the best girlfriend, in order to complain a lot to her about this traitor.

   This period should not last more than 3 days, and it's best not to leave the house to avoid being tempted and stupid.

2. Bring yourself in order.

   That's all the tears are melted, your favorite melodramas are revised, a couple of extra pounds are dialed, but it all was worth it: the feeling of suffering was slightly blunted.

   Now is the time to do your appearance: go to training, visit a beauty salon, buy yourself a new dress and / or shoes.

   For work / study, you must be a beauty-winner, especially if you are with a guy who is trying to stop loving, work / study.

You can stop loving a guy by finding a job!

This method really helped me when I tried to stop loving one guy, while still a university student.

Instead of indulging in my grief and ruining my life, I plunged headlong into my studies.

I pored over textbooks, read books from books of supplementary literature, performed homework in larger volumes than necessary.

Gradually the pain began to subside, and my efforts, naturally, were noted by the teachers.

How to understand men?

You can follow my example or choose your path:

1. Focus on the work.

   Stop loving a former guy and make a dizzying career - what could be nicer?

2. Apply for some courses.

   And even better - a few, and even add to them regular exercise, if before you did not attend the gym or any group training.

3. Get yourself a hobby or give yourself with all the passion already available hobby.

4. Take a trip.

   If you are not shy in finances and can take a vacation, then go to the warmer regions or to some spa resort.

   From the rest you come a renewed person, who is already able to stop loving the guy.

5. Do volunteer work.

   Helping unhappy people or little animals, you will realize that your suffering is dust, compared to what happened to many of them.

You can stop loving any guy if you concentrate on his shortcomings

When we fall in love with someone, we endow the object of our passion with all conceivable and unimaginable merits, even if our "prynts" does not.

Naturally, we do not notice an abundance of shortcomings.

Now you need to do everything exactly the opposite.

Remove the rose-colored glasses and look at the guy you're going to fall out of love with without decorating him like a Christmas tree with fictional virtues.

Do you see how many shortcomings he has?

You see that he did not do very well with you while you were together?

And anyway - could a real prince throw his princess and pozaritsya at a servant-dirty?

No, never!

So is such an unworthy person worthy of your suffering worthy?

I do not think so.

If you engage in auto-training daily, listing the flaws of a guy and forgetting about his virtues, you can definitely fall out of love with him.

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How to stop loving a guy? Strike it out of your life

To forget and stop loving a guy you need to cross it out of your life.

Just an ideal option if you do not live in one area and do not work / study together.

If you are less fortunate, you should minimize the number of casual encounters and, if you can not stop loving the guy because he constantly looms before your eyes, then it makes sense to think about changing jobs or studies.

In addition, you must:

1. Hide all joint photos away and in any case do not constantly review them.

2. Send him through friends all his things.

   You do not need to do this yourself, otherwise the feelings will re-flow.

3. Remove all his gifts from the eyes.

   You can make an extravagant gesture and arrange a ritual burning, just remember the safety precautions.

4. Avoid everything that reminds you of this guy - the movies you watched together, the songs you danced to, the cafes where you liked to hang, etc.

5. Erase the mobile number of his phone from the mobile phone, and from the address book - the e-mail address.

   If it's really hard to stop loving a guy, then remove him from your friends so that you do not see in the news line how good it is for you to suffer.

   What he thinks about this, you should not be concerned.

   Much more important is your state of mind.

The video below shows 3 effective techniques to get rid of feelings for a guy:

You can stop loving one guy by replacing it with another

Another sure way to stop loving a guy is to find another.

Remember that the wedge kicking out.

It is not necessary to rush headlong into the pool of random connections, but you are quite capable of:

1. To go on dates with those who invite you to them, and not to deny everyone in a row.
2. Ask your friends to introduce you to their bachelor comrades.
3. Register on the dating site.

4. Add to groups in social networks, where attractive guys are hanging out, and to tie in with one or several of them.

   Perhaps, it will not go beyond the correspondence, but it will definitely help you to get distracted.

5. To lead an active social life: going to parties, nightclubs with girlfriends, on city holidays - to visit those places where there is a greater chance of meeting a nice guy who will help you to stop loving the previous one.

I understand that it's not so easy to find ways, , to stop loving a guy , especially if the wound is fresh enough.

But from the fact that you will feel sorry for yourself and completely concentrate on your grief, rejecting all the charms of life - it will not be easier.

It will get worse when you find out that the guy who made you suffer, enjoys life as you drown in the ocean of pain.