How to part with a girl - recommendations from a psychologist

When we first start dating a person who likes us immensely, then naturally we do not plan the process of parting.

On the contrary, we dream of a cloudless future together.

Alas, life sometimes presents unpleasant surprises and instead of a fairy tale "and they lived happily ever after" you have to think, how to part with the girl .

The reasons for this step may be different, but the result is always the same: farewell.

If the initiative comes from you, then for the girl such a decision can be a real blow, especially if she still loves you.

Your task is to try to soften the blow as much as possible, so that the gap is less painful for both.

How to leave a girl best?

People often create problems where they do not exist and try to work out where they need to act as simply and straightforwardly.

I understand that parting with a girl is not easy and you are trying to find a way that will be as painless as possible for you and for her.

But such a method does not exist: one of you will be hurt, and most likely - both.

It's best to end a relationship with a lady, telling her directly about everything.

First, this is how real men do.

Secondly, only through frank conversation you can bring to her the fact that you will not be together.

Only let this conversation be as calm as possible, do not allow a scandal, but if the ladies thrown by you turn up on high tones, then immediately turn it off.

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2 conditions to part with a girl:

1. Explain to her the reason for parting.

   It should be strong enough, otherwise the young lady will decide that she will be able to return you and will not leave you alone for a long time.

2. Try to soften the blow.

   You can do it like this:

   • with a banal phrase: "The reason is not in you, the reason is in me";
   • a weighty farewell gift;
   • with warm words that she is wonderful and some guy is lucky, but it surely will not be you.

How not to leave a girlfriend?

Not all guys understand that the best way to part with a girl is to talk seriously and calmly with her.

Some start to suffer with nonsense and think up stupid ways from which they themselves later suffer.

How would a normal guy never part with a girl:

1. Letter.

   Well, are you really such a coward that you are afraid to tell her in the face, why are you abandoning her?

   Oh, so be it!

2. Hiding and running from it.

   This is another loophole of cowards.

   Imagine how stupid it looks from the outside: there was a normal guy, and then he starts to freeze for nothing, not to answer phone calls, hide, not to visit, etc.

   The young lady, of course, will understand that you decided to abandon her in such a vile way, but will forever remember you, as a cowardly bastard who was afraid to tell her everything straight.

3. Having initiated a quarrel or scandal.

   Too not too courageous way to end the connection: to inflate from some trifle a grandiose scandal, and then say to an unintelligible girl that after that you just can not be together.

4. Accompanying the conversation with her hysteria.

   Yes, you have the courage to tell her in your face that you are throwing, but instead of quiet conversation, you are hysterical?

   Well, you're a man after all, not a hysterical young lady.

5. Behaving like a greedy bastard:

   • insulting a girl;
   • threatening her;
   • selecting from her all the gifts, etc.

How to throw a girl you love, but it's impossible to be together with her?

As I said, the reasons why you want to break off a relationship with a girl can be completely different.

And not always it is that you stopped loving it or found another one.

Sometimes guys have to think about how to part with a girl they continue to love, because, for example, she changed with another guy, and you can not forgive.

If you are willing to forgive treason or another form of betrayal on its part - your right, because cases are not lonely when the relationship is perfectly restored after a terrible blow.

If for you this is a matter of principle and you can not stay with a girl who cruelly betrayed you and hurt you, then the only right decision is to part with it.

In this case, leave the girl as follows:

1. Explain to her the seriousness of her action.
2. Make it clear that you can never forgive her.
3. Avoid all the chances of re-rapprochement with it.
4. To return all her gifts, things, joint photos, if she does not take back - throw them.
5. To leave irrevocably and never to return to the traitor.

Yes, it will be hard for you, but time will surely heal these terrible wounds.

Believe me, you will soon meet a good girl, unlike this, with which you will be absolutely happy.

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problem "Parted with a girl, but I can not forget her"

We girls are often unfair to boys, considering them thick-skinned, living by the conviction that they do not suffer, like us, after parting.

This is not true.

There are, of course, sociopaths with atrophied emotions, but most guys are also experiencing a break, even if it occurred on their initiative.

To collect material for this text for you, I re-read a lot of different articles.

And under one was the comment of Anton's boyfriend.

He complained that he initiated a break with his beloved, because they were terrible, they did not fit together at all and constantly scandalized.

He understands that his act was absolutely right, because they had no future together, but he continues to get bored and suffer.

It seems to me that such a situation is quite typical and many pass through the same way that guy Anton.

If you broke up with the girl, but you can not forget her, then I would advise:

1. Knock out the wedge with a wedge and tie the relationship with another girl.

   If you are not ready for a serious relationship, then you can find not particularly zamorochennuyu young lady, who is ready to have fun with you time, without demanding anything in return.

2. Fill your life with all sorts of things, so that once you miss the girl.

   Concentrate on work / study, register for some courses, get a dog, go in for sports, etc.

3. Get rid of everything that reminds you of it:

   • hide or throw away her gifts, joint photos, her things she did not take away;
   • abandon the routes, following which there is a chance to meet with it;
   • stop attending for a while institutions, where you went together, etc.

With his reflections on how to properly part with a girl,

is shared by a video blogger and a successful businessman Pavel Bagryantsev:

What if the girl wants to part?

In the break of the relationship, the initiative does not always come from the guy.

Often happens that it is the girl who wants to part with you.

If your relationship is not glued and you intuitively waited for such a step on her part, then surviving the separation will be easier.

Problems arise if you did not expect that you are going to quit, and continue to love this crafty young lady.

What to do if a girl wants to leave, but you're not ready for this step?

1. Find out from her the reason for this decision - it is quite possible that you will also recognize her as serious, and surviving the parting will be much easier.
2. Try to convince her to give you a second chance and realize it to the maximum if you get the consent.
3. pretend to agree with such a decision, but after try to prove how wrong she was, leaving you behind.
4. Uncompliably accept the fact of parting and go to lick your wounds.

Sometimes the girl wants to part not for real.

She just hints at you that you need to change the attitude to both her and your novel.

Do not be a dummy, correct yourself if it is really dear to you.

If not, then rejoice that it was so easy to part with this girl and go in search of another.