Is it worth to forgive treason?

In my opinion, one of the most unpleasant events in the life of every person is the infidelity of a loved one whom he trusted and with whom he hoped to go hand in hand all his life.

It hurts, you are crushed, you are not capable of thinking soberly, but you need to gather and think: " Is it worth forgiving the betrayal of ?", "Will they betray me again?", "Maybe without a traitor / traitor, and I'll find a more reliable second half? ".

It is quite difficult to advise anything in this situation, but I will still try to help my readers.

Is it worth while to forgive treason - that is the question. ..

Infidelity is a powerful blow even for the strongest and lasting relationships, from which it is difficult to recover.

But the most difficult thing is not to recover after betrayal, but to decide what to do with the wrong second half next.

It's one thing, if a husband or wife who has changed their husbands, collecting their suitcases, said: "Farewell" and went to the lover / mistress.

Then you simply do not have a choice: you need to lick your wounds and learn to live without a loved one.

It's quite another - when the wrong husband or wife repents and asks for a second chance.

Then the question becomes acute, is it worth to forgive treason or better forever to break off relations with the wrong person.

Undoubtedly, you have to solve a difficult task and, if you manage, you can significantly change your family life for the better.

What to do before you begin to answer the question, is it worth to forgive treason?

Many psychologists believe that treason is one of the most serious psychological traumas from which it is difficult to melt.

People who have experienced a betrayal of a loved one should closely monitor their physical and mental health, because the devotee's wife often begins to suffer from female diseases, and the cuckold's husbands - from alcoholism.

You are ill, you suffer, you are not able to concentrate on something, and you need to make a serious decision whether to forgive treason.

Before making a difficult life choice, you need:

1. Calm down.
2. Wait until the wounds inflicted by the traitor stop bleeding.
3. Restore your ability to think soberly.

Do not make any decisions while you are in a depressed state.

That's all - no.

Ask the husband or wife that changed you to give you time to think.

How to behave after the betrayal of her husband?

1-2 weeks will be enough to understand the situation, your feelings for the wrong second half and understand if you are ready for forgiveness or you will be better off from the traitor / traitor.

Restore the forces, because serious conversation and difficult choices await you ahead.

How do you know if you should forgive treason?

you changed. A week or two passed after you learned about the crime.

You had time to calm down, soberly comprehend what had happened and realize the very fact of treason.

You can not keep the situation in suspense - you'll have to decide whether to forgive treason or not.

In order to make a balanced decision, you need to seriously talk with your wrong second half.

To talk without hysteria, without scandal, without theatrical effects( such as throwing his / her things out of the window), without tears and accusations.

During the conversation you need to know:

1. Circumstances of infidelity.

   Yes, it will hurt to hear about it, but it is necessary.

   After all, one thing when the betrayal was a one-time drunk or as a result of a long separation from you, but quite another, if you were deceived for years.

   Here it is worth considering how well you know the person with whom you lived for so many years, and whether he is at all your forgiveness.

2. The attitude of the "criminal" to the act he committed.

   Does he / she regret being deported or not?

3. Intention to you.

   It is possible that the traitor / betrayer and does not try to save the family, and infidelity was just an excuse to part with you.

   If you are convinced that "I want to save my family", "I will do everything to deserve your forgiveness", "You are the most precious thing that I have", "I do not want to leave anywhere", that isthe meaning of forgiving betrayal.

When should I forgive treason?

So, you got all the information you need.

Now you need to comprehend it and understand whether it is worth giving your family a second chance or better breaking all the relationships with the traitor / traitor.

I believe that forgiving betrayal is worth, if:

1. This is the only sin of your husband / wife committed in your entire family life.

   Partner is really your second half and you were absolutely happy all this time.

2. You still love the traitor / traitor and can not imagine your life without him / her.

3. You are completely dependent on your partner.

   For me this is not the reason to live together, but if a woman / man knowingly made such a choice, then it remains only to endure betrayals in exchange for a well-fed prosperous life.

4. The wrong second half sincerely repents of the deed and wants to win your forgiveness.
5. has been changed to you only once, and you are almost 100% sure that it will never happen again.

In all these cases, infidelity must be qualified as a stupid mistake, and since it is wrong to be human nature, everyone deserves forgiveness.

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When is it not worth forgiving treason?

The wrong husband / wife is not always worthy of forgiveness, because your good nature can hurt you too: you are being used, your legs are wiped out and, in the end, you are likely to be thrown with a bunch of diseases and torn nerves.

You should not forgive adultery if:

1. The incorrect partner does not completely repent of the deed and for all of your accusations answers "Yes, okay, that's it" or is trying to shift the blame on you: "I changed / because you are badhusband / bad wife. "
2. Does not promise that this will not happen again.
3. You are not the first to change, that is, your partner is a criminal-recidivist.
4. A husband / wife confesses that he loves a lover / mistress and can not leave her.
5. You were deceived for many years, actually living on two families.
6. You no longer love your husband / wife and lived with him rather out of habit.
7. You do not know how to forgive.

In this case it is better to break off relations and go different paths, because nothing worthwhile from such a marriage will fail.

It is necessary to forgive treason and how to do it,

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Everyone decides for himself whether it's worth to forgive treason. ..

Of course, it's up to you to decide whether to forgive treason or not.

Not being in your shoes, it's hard to give any advice.

I ask one thing: think carefully about everything, weigh all the pros and cons, so that you do not regret the choice made, whatever it is.

I know women and men who:

• went to principles and, without even trying to listen to the wrong partner, broke off all sorts of relations with him, and then bitterly regretted their obstinacy;
• lives with a lifetime with those who change it, closing their eyes to it;
• forgive infidelity, hoping that this will not happen again and will end up in pain again;
• does everything to glue the damaged relationship, and it's perfectly possible for them;
• breaks all relations with the traitor, despite his persuasions, orderly life, young children, co-acquired property and find happiness in a second marriage.

I lead to the fact that one-sided look at the situation can not be.

No one decides for you, is it worth forgiving the treason of or not.

But, if you decide to forgive, then never again remember what happened, otherwise your relationship does not have a future.