10 rules how to talk with a girl correctly

It's not for nothing that psychologists say that women love with ears.

And it's not just the ability of guys to say flamboyant compliments( although this is a very useful skill), but also to be an interesting interlocutor.

How to talk to a girl in order to interest her with her person in order to achieve her location in order to build a strong pair with her?

We, the girls, think that the answer to this question is very simple and we can not understand why the guys are so shamelessly stupid on dates and during their acquaintance, why they can not find suitable topics for conversation, or why they keep chattering or are silent.

But, as it turned out, men adhere to completely different views on this problem, considering it almost insoluble.

Yes, this problem is solvable!

Especially if you try a little.

"Teach how to properly talk with a girl like you!"

Before I had happiness in my personal life, I, of course, went on dates with different guys.

Sometimes they were successful, sometimes - of average scall, and sometimes - and simply failures.

Once I went for a walk in the park with a nice guy Misha.

He studied at the same university as me, only in another faculty, he played in the university team of KVN, he led a fairly active social life, liked girls.

I was even flattered when he invited me on a date, because I did not yet know what was waiting for me there.

It all started quite well: Misha met me with a nice miniature bunch of flowers and suggested a walk in the park( it was time for golden autumn).

I was happy, deciding that during the walk we will talk and we will be able to get to know each other better.

I was sure that a guy like Misha knows exactly how to talk with girls correctly.

Well, what to tell you: during the two-hour walk I managed to insert just three short sentences into the stream of Misha's words.

He chatted about everything and nothing.

At the end of this grief-date, my head ached.

It is clear that I did not want to meet Misha any more, which he was terribly surprised to continue insisting on meetings.

When he bored me with his calls, I told him straight out that he was a lousy conversationalist and I was frankly bored with him.

Misha was surprised and sarcastically said: "Well, so teach me how to properly talk with a girl like you."

It's clear that I did not teach anyone.

Misha was offended, but finally fell behind.

How to talk with a girl correctly: 10 basic rules

Preparing to write this article, I remembered Misha.

Now if I met him now, I would advise you to read the basic rules how to properly talk with a girl:

1. Conversation is a dialogue of two people, and not an endless stream of verbal diarrhea of ​​one person.

2. Do not praise yourself much less.

   If you really are such a wonderful guy, then the girl will definitely appreciate it and without your narcissism.

3. Choose topics that are interesting to both, and do not just talk about what interests you.

4. Do not be silent, shifting the weight of the conversation burden on the shoulders of the girl.

   Your mooing and monosyllabic sentences will not impress anyone.

5. Choose positive topics for conversation.

   You can only complain about complaints and complaints from a close person( and then in small doses), but certainly not from an unfamiliar guy.

6. Do not send, do not swear, do not be freaky, do not be deceived.
7. Joke( preferably - not stupid and not flat) and do not forget to say compliments.
8. Listen to what the girl says to you, or else many guys have a disgusting habit of disconnecting and thinking about their own.
9. To the girl was comfortable talking to you, you need to choose the right distance( do not go too close) and tone( you do not need to whisper softly, but you do not need to shout).
10. Become an interesting interlocutor - read more, watch documentaries and useful programs.

Correctly talking with a girl means avoiding forbidden topics.

If people meet long enough or live together, then they may not have any forbidden topics for conversation.

If you want to correctly talk with a girl that you met not so long ago, then do not raise the topic:

1. Religions.
2. Sex.
3. Intimate questions( for example, it is not advisable to ask the girl how regular her monthly cycle is or what kind of gaskets she uses).
4. Child insults and complexes - you are not a psychologist to raise these topics.
5. Men's hobbies( cars, fishing, equipment) - of course, you can get a young lady who loves to talk on such topics, but the chances of this are not great.

In addition to the standard prohibited topics, there may be individual ones.

Listen carefully to your companion.

If to some question she answers you: "I would not like to talk about this topic," you should not insist on your own.

Wait a bit and you'll find out why the theme of the school or a mug for interests was banned for the girl.

What to talk on the first date?

How to talk with a girl you want to meet with?

When you meet a girl long enough, then the question of how to properly talk with her, not worth it.

You already have common themes, you have already attached to each other.

Big difficulties guys usually experience with unfamiliar girls, whom they have yet to meet.

Let's say you saw a beautiful girl and decided to invite her on a date.

How can I correctly talk to her so that I do not get rejected?

There are some simple rules:

1. Approach and say: "Hello" or "Hello."
2. Be sure to smile.
3. Say a compliment, for example: "Excuse me, but I could not resist, I just have to tell you what a beauty you are."

4. If you are encouraged( smiled in return, thanked for the compliment), then go to the presentation of a loved one.

   It is not necessary to retell the whole autobiography, it is enough to say: "I'm Petya, I work as a sales manager, I'm 24 years old".

5. If the girl is ready to talk with you further, she will introduce herself, if she is confused, then you can encourage her with the question: "What's your name?".
6. You are already familiar and you can ask for her phone number.
7. And you can( if the young lady is not in a hurry, of course) immediately call her to drink a cup of coffee in a cafe nearby.

From the video below you will learn how to learn how to flirt with a girl:

How to talk with a girl on a first date?

Naturally, the most difficult is the first date when you do not know what to talk about with a girl, what she will be interested in and what is not.

If you want to do everything correctly, then follow these rules:

1. Tell us a little about yourself: your age, family, profession, place of work / study, hobbies.
2. Encourage the girl to tell about herself the same information.
3. Find topics that bring you closer, for example, a love of books, a movie craze, a healthy lifestyle, etc.
4. Well working questions: "Your favorite film / group / song / book / transfer / singer / color / dish, etc.?".
5. If you need to fill a pause, then you can tell about:
   • a merry case from your life( it is not worth it if it puts you in a negative light);
   • best friends;
   • travels.

It's very important not to delay the first date.

If you had a good time together, talking to the girl was easy and interesting, but you see that she started to look at the clock, it's time to stop.

Thank her for the beautiful evening and invite him to the next date.

Here are the basic rules, knowledge of which will help you not to worry about the how to properly talk with the girl .

Your conversations will proceed naturally, interestingly and effectively.