Tell me, please, dear readers of the Diary of Success, how often did you think about doing something and asked yourself the question:
"What will the people around think about( colleagues, relatives, parents or passers-by)?"
And if you have already started reading this article, then answer honestly:
- did you buy an unwanted blouse, only because according to Masha's opinion she was perfectly sitting on you?
- did you use unsuitable lipstick on the advice of girlfriends? Did
- do a disgusting hairstyle that your friends admired?
- or maybe you refused to travel your dream, just because someone claimed that it was not fashionable?
- or refused reliable work in favor of a fashionable specialty?
If you answered at least a couple of questions, then we boldly put you the diagnosis: " Dependence on the opinion of the surrounding "!
Yes, and do not argue, but better remember the situations in which you went back on track and did what you said mom, girlfriend, sister or colleague.
I will give you a vivid example of dependence on the opinions of others.
Mom of one of my friends wholeheartedly wished her daughter to finish medical, although her daughter had obvious inclinations to journalism.
Having succumbed to the authoritative opinion of the parent, my friend successfully finished honey and took a job as a doctor in a local hospital.
As a beginning physician, she received a salary of 7 thousand and was kind of glad.
But a few years later, having created a family and having a child, my friend howled as money was sorely missed.
But the caring mother all these years inspired the daughter that the doctor should not work for a salary.
As a result, the girlfriend became so dependent on the opinion of my mother that she consults her on any issue.
On the change of work in this situation is out of the question.
Even with an acute shortage of money!
To summarize, we can say that depends on the opinion of the surrounding in the first place affects the dependent person, and can undermine not only his faith in himself, but his whole life.
Tell me, do you really want such a fate?
Not?
Then the following simple tips will help you not to depend on the opinions of others.
Let's go!
How not to depend on the opinions of others?
Tip 1. Do not try to please everyone at once!
Starting to struggle with dependence on the opinion of the surrounding , you must learn the most important rule: "It's impossible to like absolutely everything!"
Even Brad Pitt is not liked by everyone.
And what? Is he adapting to everyone?
No, of course.
And the math teacher at school? Does she try to please everyone?
And then there will be a negative answer.
That's why:
Stop obsessing over the opinions of others.
Begin to think only about what exactly you want and what you like.
Recognize that someone else's opinion will not change your life, and can only make it worse. ..
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Tip 2. To not depend on the opinions of others, stop obsessing about.
And now answer me a few questions: What was Zina's neighbor wearing today? And what kind of hair was the saleswoman in the bread shop?
Do not know?
That's it!
By dressing this or that clothes and speaking these or those words, we always think, but what about us will others think?
And in fact, this other absolutely violet on us, our opinion and our appearance.
Other people are busy with their problems and the same thoughts about what other people will think about them.
So stop living with an eye for others, so you risk missing all the fun that happens to you!
Tip 3. Look at the situation in the future and will cease to depend on the opinions of others.
I'll tell you one interesting story.
There was a girl Julia. The girl Yulia was 14 years old and she studied in the 9th form.
Yulia's mother was very fond of her daughter and tried to buy her only the most fashionable things.
So one day she brought her beloved daughter from a trip abroad boots on a huge platform.
In local stores, such shoes were not sold then, but it's understandable, the European fashion does not immediately reach small Russian cities.
Being short, Julia, of course, was pleased with the purchase, because the boots were not only very fashionable, but they could also make Julia a little higher.
And now, on the first day over Yulia's shoes, all classmates laughed, because there were no such boots in any store in the city.
The mockery continued for several months to come. Exactly until such a shoe was brought to the local fashion boutique.
And imported footwear was so expensive that no classmate Julia could afford a new shoe.
And what?
From a clash on the platform, Julia instantly turned into a fashionable chic.
How to change your character - the instruction!
If you do not understand the meaning of the story, I will explain - do not focus on the opinions of others, because tomorrow the situation can turn in your favor!
Tip 4. Be confident in yourself and do not succumb to someone else's opinion.
In any situation, be confident and reduce dependence on someone else's opinion to a minimum.
Galya Petrova encouraging you to go to business finance training?
Admit it honestly, but do you need it at all?
It is not necessary to subscribe to any questionable courses or trainings only in order not to disappoint a person.
Agree, you are better than others know what exactly and when you need.
You yourself know when to get up in the morning, when to go to the toilet and when to have breakfast.
About these simple things, you never succumb to the opinions of others!
So why do you listen to other people in choosing your training and your work?
Well, can someone know better than you yourself, where do you work, for whom to marry and from whom to give birth to children?
So stop depending on someone else's opinion and do not only do what you think is necessary.
Tip 5. Change your mindset
The best way to is to depend on someone else's opinion - change your thinking.
Yes, of course, it's difficult.
However, changing your mindset, you will stop concentrating only on what others think about you, and start living your own life.
Believe me, life is too short to spend it on stupid experiences!
Be sure to look at a useful parable about how
does not depend on someone else's opinion and decide how to live!
And finally. ..
I want to wish you to be just yourself, stop adapting to someone and start doing only what you like. Remember that ideal people do not exist.
All of us make mistakes, but only some of them step over mistakes and meet their dream.
Are you addicted to the opinions of others?