For a long time I wanted to philosophize on this topic - to share my thoughts, express my opinion. .. but did not reach my hand. ..
And now this day has come. .. Now we have time 17.30 - I'm sitting in the park on the bench in the "hug" with the computer( joking) and now I got the idea( nature inspires me, the warmth of the air and surprisingly very few people - no one distracts).
So, I share my thoughts!😉
Do you know what I noticed?
In today's world, the boundaries between men and women have practically erased!
The defenseless lady turned into an Amazon business and, armed with knowledge acquired in high schools, and imprisoned, manicure masters, claws, set out to build a career.
And the stone men's backs, behind which these most defenseless ladies used to hide, were considerably limp and firmly settled at home to clean, prepare and bring up children.
I'm sure that many people know this picture, but not all pairs have changed roles.
There are still many families where the model tested for centuries is valid: the husband is the breadwinner, the wife is the keeper of the home.
And here the public opinion comes into play.
Is it a shame to sit at home?
During Soviet times, we were firmly hammered into our heads( here I judge by the stories of my acquaintances - I was still small at these times) that everyone who sits at home and does not work is parasites.
No exceptions were made for anyone, and for women - including.
She gave birth to a child, stayed for three months in a decree and all - running for her beloved machine.
Then, however, the term was gradually increased to 3 years, but the main essence of the matter is not changed.
The role of the housewife was considered a relic of the past.
It would seem that the end of the Soviet era should change the look at the position of the housewife, but there it was.
The heavy 90s, and afterwards - the influence of Europe and the US with their struggle for gender equality - caused our women again to rush to earn and make money.
But is it up to all the fair sex?
Indeed, there are ladies who are just born to lead, found corporations, make scientific discoveries, roll millions of capital, analyze and implement interesting ideas for business.
Sitting at home in this case is just a crime!
But after all such talents are possessed by the elected, so why is society so intransigent with women who are born for homework?
Well, they do not know how to make big money and they do not shine the director, but they know how to become a good housewife !
How to become a good wife?
They know 25 options for cooking potatoes, and the purity in their bathroom - shame even the operating room!
Add to this the husband, who fully provides the family and two or three little children.
Do you still think that the place of such women at the office table?
Then you are near in your beliefs!
When is it necessary to look at the situation from a different angle?
With those who voluntarily decided to devote their lives to their husband and children, having seen their calling in this, we understood, but there is a category of women who became housewives involuntarily!
In recent years, the financial crisis continues to grow, so many were left without official work.
The dismissal of these active ladies is perceived as a personal tragedy, and the apron and room slippers are regarded as punishment for unknown sins!
As soon as the situation becomes more favorable, they immediately return to their favorite profession, but temporary unemployment should not be accompanied by hysterics and depressions, which family problems will add to the work problems.
Just try to turn the situation inside out!
Remember, what did you lack the time when you worked for 8( or even more) hours a day?
How to build relationships in the family?
For sure, there is a long list of books, films, exhibitions, presentations, recipes that have long wanted to read, see, visit, cook and so on.
Therefore, get up from the couch( and then get lost!) And start implementing your plans to not regret the aimlessly spent days, when you will again become a working woman.
Tips for housewives!
It does not matter what led you to the profession of a housewife - a voluntary decision or coincidence - do not repeat the typical mistakes of your colleagues:
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No greasy hair, dirty fingernails and gown.
Motivation of many women who do not want to watch themselves is simple: I do not go to work, so I do not have someone to dress up for.
And here it is!
Keep looking well-groomed for yourself and your loved ones.
The husband will not look at other women, if a beautiful woman lives next to him, believe me!
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Train the body and mind.
Do not focus only on cutting out recipes and viewing soap operas.
Be sure to enroll in the gym( fitness, pilates, yoga, whatever), read books, watch educational films and programs.
Prove to others that you have something to talk about!
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Do not move in the last century.
Perhaps, the ladies of the past and were often cut off from the whole world, but today you have unlimited possibilities to follow the novelties of fashion, the film industry, scientific achievements and so on.
Watch the film that received this year's "Oscar" and find out what designers recommend to wear in the spring.
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Do not close in four walls.
Do not interrupt the relationship with your girlfriends, even if they continue to work, and you do not.If you are connected by a long-term friendship, then you will have something to talk about, except for complaints about the leader-satrap and self-pity for your beloved.
And the husband should know that you have your own social circle.
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Do not freeze in development.
Yes, now you are a happy housewife, which the husband provides completely, but imagine that the situation has changed and you are forced to make a living?
Have you thought about this? And here and in vain! You need to be ready for everything!
Lack of regular work gives you enough time to: finish the course, learn a few computer programs, learn English and even find work-outs for your needs( network marketing, copywriting).
If the hard times come, you will be fully armed.
Dear women, I recommend to view a motivating video,
where a professional psychologist gives advice -
how to get rid of the housewife syndrome!
Men can also look - for common development!🙂
And my last tip. ..
Forget the word housewife and become the mistress of the house, and this is not a soapy bloated individual in an old dressing gown, but a confident, well-groomed woman who has deliberately chosen her profession at home.