What do you think, which marriage can be considered ideal?
My opinion( and I dare to assume that many will agree with him) is the one where the spouses are absolutely happy and keep the love throughout the whole family life.
Each of us dreams of such a marriage.
But how to achieve this?
How to become a good wife , which will be loved until the end of life, which will never be changed for a stupid young secretary?
Let's try together to find the answers to these questions.
What makes women think how to become a good wife?
Almost every girl dreams that one day she will meet her prince and live with him long and happily, because in all the tales that's exactly what happens.
Alas, most fairy tales usually end with a fun wedding.
About how Cinderella and the Prince or Beauty and the Beast were rubbing each other, how he tried to bravely absorb her cooking and get used to her kind in a home dressing gown and with a mask on her face, and she tried not to be nervous, collecting around the lock of his socks andstumbling over fishing tackles and boxes with baits, the narrators modestly hold back.
But after all, fairy tales are exactly the same as real life, that we have just started with a wedding( or with a decision to live together).
Gradually it turns out that the prince somehow not very much and looks like a prince, and family life is not at all what it was.
And then you have to decide: get divorced, go in search of a new partner, or try to become a good wife and save your marriage.
I believe that we sometimes throw out things that are easy to fix too quickly, so if you have a desire and you see further perspectives, it is better to try to become a good wife and save a marriage.
You will have time to divorce always, and where are the guarantees that the second-third-fifth husband will be better than the first?
A good wife: 5 components of success
The views of men and society on what should be a good wife gradually changed.
In tsarist times, the woman's lot was the house and family, she was not trusted to solve important issues.
The Communists tried to erase the boundaries between the sexes, calling both men and women "comrade" and hammering women's clothing shops with gray robes from the "Bolshevichka" factory.
To understand what a modern woman should do to become a good wife is very difficult.
Men, of course, want everything at once, to:
- was the kindest smartest beauty, but at the same time solved all the problems;
- prepared wonderfully, maintained the order of the house, but at the same time worked and earned well;
- never sawed or scandalized for fishing and gathering with friends, but she herself was at home and did not play with her friends anywhere, and so on.
In short, they want, these men, nonexistent individual with the appearance of the supermodel.
And yet, if you discard emotions and jokes aside, there are 5 conditions that a woman must fulfill in order to become a good wife.
- To be beautiful.
- To become a good mistress, a caring mother.
- Get a set of positive qualities( positive, in the eyes of her husband, of course).
- To love her husband, to serve him as a support and support, to respect his friends and hobbies.
- To preserve uniqueness and self-sufficiency.
Recipe number 1, how to become a good wife
Many women make the same mistake: they amaze the man with their beauty and well-groomed during meetings, and then relax, stop attending beauty salons, eat excess pounds, forget what depilation,e.
You can not do this!
Remain the same beauty as when he first saw you.
Not only your husband, but also other men should see you out with an admiring glance.
And yet: it is extremely important to wear clothes that would excite and inspire your husband, whether it's a home dressing gown or a nightgown.
Recipe number 2, how to become a good wife
Without leading a family life so unloved by many women, it is difficult to become a good wife for your husband.
It's one thing if you have a domestic worker, a nanny and a cook, but it's completely different if the financial situation of the family does not allow you to hire assistants.
In this case you will have to do it yourself( attracting delicately to the work of the husband and children):
- It is tasty to cook( not a bucket of borsch for a week, but delicious and healthy dishes daily, at least occasionally, spoil your homemade cakes).
- Maintain cleanliness in the house, create comfort here.
- Keep track of the cleanliness and condition of the clothes of the husband and children.
- Bring up the children.
Recipe № 3, how to become a good wife
Every man looks for a certain set of positive qualities in his future wife and is disappointed when he does not find them.
The simplest option to match its ideal is to ask directly: "What, my beloved, should I be?".
How to become well-groomed?
If this way it is not possible to find out, then focus on the tastes of most men who, above all, appreciate in a woman:
- Kindness.
- Caring.
- Femininity.
- Patience.
- Cheerfulness.
- Sexuality.
- Reliability.
- Fidelity.
A woman with such a set of qualities to become a good wife for her husband - just spit.
Recipe # 4, how to become a good wife
The fourth component of a good wife is the most difficult, because it requires women to sacrifice their interests to please a man.
The vast majority of peasants want their spouse:
- Did not saw him for late parishes, gatherings with friends, small earnings, etc.
- Always substituted the shoulder, if in his life there was a black streak.
- Totally loved, even if he makes garbage and has already lost his former attraction.
- I was always ready for sex and stayed responsive in bed.
- Made his life comfortable in all understandings of the word.
Go for such a compromise or not, see for yourself.
If you get all this from your husband, then repay him the same.
If it does not, it all depends on how much you love your spouse and whether you believe that you will become happy by starting to match his ideal.
How to become attractive?
Recipe number 5, how to become a good wife
Homemade chicken who are shaking their hubby all my life, afraid of losing it, will condemn me for this recipe, but I still say.
In his desire to become a good wife, it is very important to save yourself, not to dissolve in this marriage, not to become a habit for him, in the likeness of old trampled slippers that are a pity to throw out, because they are so convenient, but people will not be able to show them anymore,because - it's embarrassing, and - there is no need.
Have one more circle of interests outside the family.
What it will be( career, hobby, charity, friends) - it's up to you.
The main thing is to keep your uniqueness and stay interesting in the eyes of your husband.
A woman who has interests other than her family will be afraid to lose.
To become a good wife, we recommend that you also read the tips given by
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How to become a good wife in the opinion of Maya Plisetskaya?
If you search the Internet for materials such as "The Strongest Couple", "The Longest Unions", etc., then you are sure to meet there Maya Plisetskaya and Rodion Shchedrin.
They lived together for 57 years, and then their happiness was interrupted by the death of a great ballerina.
They often gave joint interviews, sometimes the secrets of family happiness of the ballerina shared one.
I chose the 3 most interesting tips of this adorable woman who met with her husband a golden wedding, for those who want to become a good wife:
- Admire your husband for life and never allow yourself to be disappointed in it.
- No matriarchy in the family.
A woman who begins to command, completely loses her femininity. - Give your husband what he needs: unpretentiousness, caring, affection, kindness, to serve as his Muse and inspirer.
And yet Maya Mikhailovna repeatedly said that she and Rodion Shchedrin perfectly matched each other, they coincided, the puzzle of their life was put together.
I think this is the main secret of family life.
That's why sometimes you do not need to look for prescriptions, how to become a good wife of , and find your true soul mate and then most of the problems are solved by itself.