Remember the Soviet song "If you do not have aunt. .."?
I will not quote it completely( who does not remember - google), but the meaning of her text is that if you do not have something( friend, aunts, dogs, wives, etc.), thenthey will not do anything wrong, it's true, life is hard to call such a life.
What am I talking about now?
To the fact that you can never be jealous of your husband only if you do not have one.
All married women( all, all, rummage in your memory) at least once in your life, but tried to solve the problem, how to stop jealous of the husband to his colleague, neighbor, childhood friend, his girlfriend, etc.
And already born jealous of Othello's image in a skirt never go out, risking to destroy their family life sooner or later.
"Stop me jealous, hysterical!"
It was this phrase yelled at a young man picking up his shirts in the flowerbed, a pretty girl who continued to throw out some of his things from the balcony of the third floor.
I came to visit my friend and accidentally witnessed these Italian passions.
A friend told the story of this original couple that was her neighbors in the stairwell.
The girl I saw on the balcony lived in this apartment, donated by parents, for a few years.
Everyone remembered her as a calm polite lady, who did not like night walks, did not make noise, did not swear at neighbors and did not bring crowds in crowds.
And then she met the man of her dreams and married him.
And then it was changed: it began to be jealous of it for every pillar, and scandals, screams and disassemblies in the style of what I saw became permanent.
Neighbors have repeatedly witnessed how a husband pleaded with his wife to stop jealous of him, swore allegiance, assured of his sincere feelings, but quite adequate earlier girl( either because of great love, or for some other reason) purposefullyshe was ruining her family, because she could not stop jealous of her husband.
So stop jealous of her husband or not?
For the sake of justice we say that men are not always white and fluffy, more precisely - they are not always faithful and honest with their wives.
There are as many unfaithful husbands as the faithful.
Maybe, just because there are so many walkers left around, some women can not stop jealous of their husband.
Sometimes jealousy is completely justified.
You have a reason for suspicion if your husband:
- flirts with all the female individuals indiscriminately, and his flirting can not be called friendly;
- already changed you earlier;
- almost certainly changes you and this is evidenced by various signs: women's hair and lipstick on his clothes, constant delays at work, suspicious phone calls, large cash expenses on the side, etc.;
- under various pretexts refuses intimacy with you.
In all other cases you need to cope with your paranoia and stop jealous of your husband.
If you daily harass him with suspicions and scandals, then nothing worthwhile from your marriage will not work.
Sooner or later he will spit on all this, call you a "crazy hysterical woman" and be comforted in the arms of a more wise and calm woman.
By the way, this is exactly what happened to the neighbors of my friend: my husband fled from his jealous wife after 3 years of marriage.
How to stop jealous of her husband? Start trusting him!
I confess to you honestly: for all the fact that I am the owner, I do not understand the wild groundless jealousy and endless family quarrels on this ground.
If you are jealous of your husband, without any evidence of his betrayal, what does that mean?
This means that you simply do not trust him.
Tell me, please, how could you connect your destiny with a man you do not trust?
Remember that trust is the basis of any relationship, whether friendly or love, and if it is not, then the relationship has a short shelf life and it is worth preparing for the fact that sooner or later everything will fall apart.
Are you ready to lose your husband?
Not?
Then it's time to learn to trust him. Start believing her husband, as yourself.
Would you jump on other people's beds?
So, why do you think that the man you fell in love with and for whom you agreed to get married is so bad that you are not trustworthy?
To stop jealous, you need to be confident and charming
Not once: sultry, self-confident beauties, their men are jealous much less often than groomed aunts with a bunch of extra pounds and complexes.
And this is quite logical: if I'm beautiful, smart, catch the admiring glances of other men, make a career and do not depend on the man financially, then why should I be jealous of him without cause?
That's right, there is no need!
But the zhirnenkoy, messy, neuhozhennenkoy aunt-housewife, whose life revolves around her husband, stop jealous of it is very difficult.
She realizes that she loses outwardly to many( very many!) Women, that she is not interested in any of the men, that she will simply starve to death without the salary of her husband.
Somewhere in the depths of the soul, the aunt is aware of everything, but being a lazy and weak creature, she does not go to the beauty salon and the gym, she does not look for a job to realize herself, she starts to suffer from jealousy.
Once you:
- bring your appearance in order;
- get rid of complexes;
- become financially independent;
- will acquire interests in addition to home and family;
shake the hen in front of her husband you will lose all desire.
He will be afraid of losing you, not you.
How to become well-groomed?
Stop jealous of my husband and think about the consequences of
And again twenty-five: our thoughts are material.
Not only our sincere desires and dreams can be realized, but also our fears.
If you are constantly afraid of cheating on the part of your husband, if you constantly fantasize about "husband and some kind of bitch", if you see a potential threat in every beautiful woman, sooner or later even the most faithful of husbands you push on the path of adultery.
All these fears, thoughts and fantasies the universe takes for signals: a person thinks so much about it, tries, you need to send it to him at last.
I'm keeping quiet about the fact that many husbands, tired of scandals on the basis of jealousy, decide that it's time to be "whipped" for the cause.
"No, well, well, it's been me for years, saws and saws, scandals and scandals. I'm tired of making excuses, being sinless, "this is how one of my acquaintances explained his treason.
"You know," he continued, "it seems to me that my wife was even delighted somehow, they say, she was jealous for all these years. Strange you, women. "
I did not even have that to argue.
We are really strange, because instead of calming down and enjoying our family happiness, we push it with our baseless suspicions into the embrace of another woman.
A couple of words about groundless jealousy and its consequences
you will hear from the video.
Draw conclusions!
To stop jealous, you need to realize all the futility of this case
The fact that you are jealous of her husband and in every possible way demonstrating this, will not keep him from treason. Most likely, on the contrary, will push to it.
Jealousy in large doses is destructive for both relationships, and for a woman who is jealous.
You run the risk of not only destroying your own marriage, but also earning yourself a neurosis, depression, or even worse.
And again: the whole bunch of mental illnesses, excess weight( if you consoled yourself with chocolate sweets) or household alcoholism( if - a glass of wine, the second) your husband will not keep from betraying.
Instead of being jealous of your husband, turn into a woman who has no competitors, because you will not find another such treasure in the whole world.
And, if this fool exchanges Belgian chocolate for a melted five-kopek caramel, then it's worse for him.
As an output I will give you one more tip, how to stop jealous of your husband : live a busy life.
Bad thoughts start to cling to the head when there is too much free time.
Do something better than anything, instead of squandering yourself into jealousy.