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Almost always we are too critical of ourselves.
Anything can not suit us!
Someone suffers because of their own appearance, someone does not like the salary, and someone even own children.
Such discontent sweeps day after day, they are discussed over tea, however, it usually does not go further than talking.
And instead of developing and solving problems, we exacerbate our discontent, accumulate irritability and anger until we come to a standstill.
Someone in these situations starts to think, how to change themselves , and someone continues to drive themselves into an even bigger pit.
How to change yourself?
At the initial stage of self-change, there are several rules, without which all your wanters will crumble even at the dream stage, never realizing.
So, what are these rules?
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1 rule. Motivation to change yourself
The most important and strong stimulus for you at the initial stage should be motivation.
You must be eager to change.
Motivation is the basis of everything!
For example, you weigh 200 kg and want to lose weight, but do not lose weight.
Why? Admit yourself - you just do not want to do it.
The person who really wants to lose weight is losing weight.
And your references to lack of time and workload are nothing more than simple excuses.
Therefore: if you really want something, think about strong motivation.
For someone it can be a model agency, for someone - the location of a loved one, and for someone - the universal admiration.
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2 rule. Set clear goals for
Often our desires look like this:I'll go there, I do not know where!
I want something, I do not know what!
In other words, we want to go somewhere, we want a lot of money, a cool car and a chic house. Thinking about such things, we put our own brain at a dead end.
Our brain starts to ask: where do I want to go, what kind of car do I want, etc.
But he does not receive answers to his questions, and therefore nothing happens.
Imagine you are working in a restaurant, and the customer calls you and makes the following order: "Bring me a delicious inexpensive meal someday".
What will you do?
The first thing you need to know is what kind of delicious food the client wants.
You ask, what amount he wants to spend and at what specific time he wants to get his food.
Got the point?
How to get out of comfort zone?
Your brain also needs a specificity.
For example, I want to lose weight in 50 months after 3 months.
Specify all your Wishlist and then they will become more real!
Begin to change yourself
Very many people do not aspire to to change themselves just because they think it's impossible.
Since childhood, many stereotypes have been laid in us, and the stereotype of the impossibility of changing oneself is among them.
We are often told that we can not change, that the character is formed even in the womb, and habits - in the early years of life.
However, in fact, you can change at any age, the main thing - the correct motivation and setting goals.
Now that you have found the right motivation and set a goal, it's time to move on to the most important thing - changing yourself.
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Stage 1.Begin to positively think and change yourself
At the initial stage of , change yourself , start thinking only about good.As a rule, all successful people think exclusively positively. Pessimism is the lot of losers.
Optimists initially program their minds for the best that can happen to them.
For example, in a year I will have a salary of 10 thousand dollars a month and a 3-room apartment on Krasnie Presnya Street.
In case of dismissal, you should not feel depressed.
In this case, it's worth thinking like this:
"It's right that I was fired! After all, in this position I can not start earning 10 thousand dollars a month. And the next place will bring me just that kind of money. "
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Stage 2.Changing yourself and fighting with stress
Once you have learned to think positively, go to the fight against stress.
After all, all successful and balanced people are able to control their emotions.
Do not let even trifles spoil your mood.
Know: nerve cells can not be restored.
Continuing uncontrolled emotional life, you risk becoming old grumbling grandmother or grandfather to old age.
You do not want this? !
To begin with, start agreeing with all who and what you are saying.
For example, at times when the boss is chastising you, do not argue with him.
Proving that you are not an ass, you only exacerbate the dispute and inflame the boss.
Instead, agree with all of his words, even if the boss is not right.
This will knock him out of the rut and prevent a conflict.
It will be simply uninteresting for a person to yell, if you already agreed with him!
Even if you are yelling at a bus, shop or near a house, do not answer rudeness to rudeness.
Instead, smile and say something tenacious, capable of confusing a person.
Stopping the swearing and arguments on the root, you will save yourself from unnecessary stress and stress.
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Stage 3.We are looking for the required quality
For success in any field, we simply need a number of useful qualities, such as:
- self-confidence;
- enthusiasm;
- optimism;
- discipline;
- patience.
You can add this list to other useful qualities that you would like to have.
Now you need to understand how to achieve the desired qualities and become better by changing yourself .
Separately it is necessary to allocate enthusiasm.
Try to find for yourself such a business, to which you will be given without a trace, try to find yourself!
After all, the most important thing in life is to do only what really brings joy and warmth.