How to get rid of jealousy?

Something I wanted today to philosophize about such an unpleasant feeling as jealousy!

Even the ancient writers with pleasure used in their works the theme of jealousy.

And why not?

The passionate plot with a tragic ending was popular among readers.

Later appeared the immortal "Othello" by William Shakespeare, and modern authors do not shun such themes.

However, it is much more pleasant to sympathize with book or movie heroes suffering from jealousy than it becomes a source of scandal.

How to get rid of the feelings of jealousy , and indeed, what is it, where does it come from and what it is eaten, try today and figure it out!

To understand how to get rid of jealousy - initially find out what kind of a jealous you are

The devotee is a word from the child's vocabulary of my friend. So she first called her dad in this way at 5, watching the next quarrel of her parents.

Her father is really creepy jealous and plagues her mother with her suspicions for 35 years.

And, there is no logic in his actions, since he himself is a handsome man, who in his current 60 ladies is escorted by interested looks, and my friend's mom is practically a gray mouse, absolutely not spoiled by male attention.

But the paradox is that he is jealous of her just furious, but she is not, although she adores with awe until now.

To tolerate his temperament for so long, one really needs to experience very strong feelings.

At the birthday of this very girlfriend, I became an occasional witness of the monologue of the pope, who began to suspect his mother of potential treason with a 20-year-old waiter.

To be honest, there was a desire to intervene and advise him at last to get rid of the jealousy of , but did not spoil the holiday girlfriend.

Did anyone remind you of my friend's dad?

Well, do you wonder if you created such precedents?

Not sure?

Then we'll do a little testing.

How to start a new life?

Answer "Yes" or "No" to the following questions:

• Do you follow the reaction of your beloved / loved one to other women / men?
• Do you check his / her phone / computer / pockets, etc.?
• Do you think that your brother / sister's parents are unfairly paying more attention?
• Are you angry with a friend / friend when she / he spends time with you?
• Did you hate the sympathy in the minibus when he / she smiled not at you, but on the painted dumbbell / dingy dude next door?

If you answered positively to at least one of the questions posed, then there is an occasion to think about, and if - to everything, then you just need to learn how to get rid of jealousy.

Should I get rid of jealousy?

Let's first understand what causes a sense of jealousy.

Many confuse the two concepts of "love" and "jealousy," mistakenly believing that true love is impossible without shouting "I saw how you looked at her legs? !" and the like.

But if you analyze your behavior, you will understand that the source of your jealousy is not love, but fear and complexes:

• the fear of losing love, friendship;
• a complex of ownership in relation to another person;
• fear that you will be replaced by someone else;
• feeling insecure.

And now imagine that you live with all this baggage of complexes and fears.

This huge suitcase without a handle is really expensive or will we still learn to get rid of the jealousy of ?

In addition, suspicions and quibbles will sooner or later destroy your love or friendship.

I know, only one couple who specifically bring jealousy into their relationship.

She is beautiful, he is rich.

She is used to male attention, he loves her too much not to play along.

Their scenes of jealousy - a kind of role-playing game: it provokes;he pretends to be jealous;she pretends that her suspicions are terribly boring;then they seem to be reconciled and for a while forget to play this public spectacle.

This "jealousy" will not destroy the family, because there is no feeling.

And I think that they will soon become tired of these role games, since the last performances were played somehow without a soul by both actors.🙂

How to get rid of jealousy and forget about this other feeling?

Getting rid of jealousy is actually quite simple.

The main thing - the desire and following 5 tips:

1. We get rid of the inferiority complex.

   The formulas "I'm the most charming and attractive" or "I'm the best" are still relevant.

   Repeat these phrases several times a day until you sincerely believe in them.

   And who will trade perfection for something unintelligible?

2. Fight with your fears

   Thoughts are really material.

   You will constantly think about what the husband / wife is changing, so it will happen.

   It's right to say to ourselves: we have a strong family, they really love me, they will never betray me, etc.

3. Remember that people, even the closest ones, are not your property.

   
   Even if one day off husband decided to dedicate not to you, but fishing with friends, or the wife refused to go to a restaurant, and hurried to a meeting with her friends, or a best friend exchanged a movie trip with you to meet with school friends -arrange scenes and suspect a loved one of treason and dislike.

   Take advantage of free time and do something pleasant for yourself( which constantly lacked time), get a hobby - I think it will be more useful than sitting and pumping unpleasant emotions!

4. Build a trust relationship

   If you say twice: "I'm tired of your hiking with friends in the bath," it does not mean that a person will give up his habits, just the third time he will tell you about where he is going.

   A falsehood breeds suspicion, and accordingly - jealousy.

5. Speak directly if you have any suspicions

   First, this advice is relevant only for those who do not hysterical for any reason and do not like daily disassembly.

   Creepy jealousy first need to overcome 1-4 points.

   If you do not have a sense of ownership, but lately it seems to you that your other half is changing, do not become withdrawn, do not start watching and checking phone calls.

   Just talk, but in no case on elevated tones.

Look at the comic video about male jealousy.

Laughter and only, is not it?🙂

You still do not understand, how to get rid of the jealousy of ?

Yes - it's easier than an easy one: love yourself, trust your relatives and start living your life, not their life.