Each of us has its own strengths and weaknesses.
First we try to demonstrate to the people as much as possible, but we want to hide the latter from people's eyes.
But the problem is that not all can competently use 's strengths of the person to achieve the desired.
Why this happens and how to correct your own mistake is the topic of today's article.
Human strengths: how to find them?
You, probably, will be surprised, but there are people who live without even realizing what character traits favorably distinguish them from others.
Or, their weaknesses are mistakenly considered merit, which leads to very sad consequences.
The strengths of man - for them an unexplored topic, although they do not even know about it.
Here, for example, one of my former colleagues Vika for a long time believed that a very extravagant manner of dressing - her strengths, which favorably distinguishes her from us, such standard in their suits and blouses.
Despite the fact that her body contained a kilogram of 30 excess fat, she constantly stressed every hideous wrinkle on her body.
Favorite fabric for her outfits is a delicate knitwear, an abundance of colors that even the parrots would envy.
Favorite models - leggings, low-waisted jeans, shorts, mini-skirts, short t-shirts, opening it, well, let it be tummy.
And all this charm was emphasized by military coloring: black eyes and bloody lips.
Br-rr-rr!🙂
She invented for herself the strong side in the form of exquisite taste was never strong, because customers began to complain about her ugly appearance and Vika was fired.
In order not to repeat the mistakes of the girl, revise your sides, which you consider outstanding.
Honestly, answer yourself to the question: were not the others grinning scornfully when you talked about your strengths?
If you have never conducted such an experiment, then it's time to do it!
If the result of this conversation did not please you, then there are three methods for detecting 's strengths :
- Talk with your loved ones and listen to their opinion on this.
- Carry out a few special tests - there are plenty of them on the Internet.
- Be like training or a personal session with a psychologist who will help you determine your dignity.
Human strengths: what do experts say?
Talk about what can be considered merit, and what disadvantages can last indefinitely.
For some, a person's strengths are the ability to find compromises and negotiate with everyone, for others - a strong and unbending will.
Someone believes that life can not do without rigidity and determination, and someone - that a good heart needs any human being, etc.
In my opinion, a dozen strengths of a person looks like this:
- Willpower.
- Punctuality.
- Kindness( not to be confused with "I'm a rag about which everyone wipes their feet," please, because these are completely different things).
- Ability to learn fast.
- Purposefulness.
- Sharp mind.
- Desire to cultivate.
- Practicality.
- Reliability and loyalty to its word.
- Optimism and self-confidence.
You can expand or shorten this list as you wish, but you should not completely abandon it.
Otherwise, instead of the strengths of taking risks, you will have a bunch of weaknesses that competitors and opponents will not miss.
How to use the strengths of a person competently?
A virtuoso ability to use your strengths is to act according to the situation.
That is, you should understand that the future manager needs to demonstrate some virtues( the ability to quickly learn, high qualification, responsibility), but the beloved person you want to marry is quite different: the ability to cook deliciously, femininity, sexuality, readiness forcompromises, etc.
The problem of many people is that they do not understand who and when to demonstrate their strengths, so instead of admiration, bewilderment is puzzling.
To maximize your advantages, do as follows:
- Decide on a list of your strengths.
- If you have too few merits or all of them characterize you, for example, as a good housewife, that is, only on the one hand, then work on expanding and diversifying the list.
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Demonstrate your strengths unobtrusively.
You do not have to crack them on every corner!
If you are proud of your punctuality, then every day come to work on time.
Accurately and accurately emphasize the ideal order on the table.
Consider that you have an impeccable taste and manners - do not you dare come to work with an unwashed head and champ at lunch etc.
Sooner or later, your strengths surrounding will begin to discuss.
When the strengths of a person turn into weakness: the example of the interview of a friend
One day my girlfriend went for an interview, the result of which was to become her dream job.
Alena carefully prepared for the interview, thinking everything out: appearance, answers to all sorts of questions, pose, resume, etc.
Everything has spoiled one single question: "Name 5 of your strengths."
The girl proudly said:
- workaholism;
- determination;
- will power;
- perfectionism;
- responsibility.
Instead of fading with admiration, the potential employer frowned and said dryly: "We'll call you. .."
Alena really called back, but only to say: "You do not fit us."
On the timid question of a friend: "Why?" She was explained that she saw a bitch who would bring discord into the team, and an abnormal workaholic who is going to hang out at work for days.
Naturally, here the fault is not so much a friend as her incomplete boss.
Most likely, similar baggage strengths of a person to another employer would have liked.
And this employer proved to be 100% right and would attach to his team an excellent specialist.
I told this story to you in order to explain: sometimes character traits, skills, habits that seem to us undeniable virtues, are treated by other people as flaws.
It's not your fault!
Just some people are by nature narrow-minded.
And this is their weakness!
You still do not understand what strengths are there for you?
Then we start the clip of Pavel Kochkin and listen carefully to
simple words and simple examples!
Now it became clearer, determined?
If not - enable repetition and analyze its initial data.🙂