The friendship between a man and a woman is a myth or a reality?

Can a strong and beautiful sex be truly friends, are the immigrants from Venus and Mars able to maintain friendly relations for a long time without translating them into a romantic area, is it possible for a female friend to observe how her male friend is tied uplove relationship with some lady and vice versa?

These and other topics are constantly raised by psychologists, writers, journalists, researchers, and just ordinary people.

" Is there a friendship between a man and a woman ?" - this question raises a lot of controversy.

Some say that this is absolutely impossible, others start to throw accusations in the style: "But you just do not know how to be friends!".

And the truth, as usual, is somewhere in the middle.

Let's try to find out about it?

Friendship between a man and a woman or yet - a friendly relationship?

I hope you understand the difference between the concepts of "friend" and "friend"?

Buddies, which you can have very many, are those with whom you periodically meet to have fun, talk on general topics, do things that interest you, etc.

But friends, whom fate does not give away right and left, sometimes come closer than family members, because they will always support in difficult times and help to cope with any troubles.

So, psychologists say that can not be a friendship between a man and a woman , but only those friendly relations can be.

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And, if you crossed the line and became real friends, sooner or later one of you will fall in love with another.

From this rule there are 3 exceptions( although very doubtful, as for me):

1. If one of the opposite-sex friends or both have an unconventional sexual orientation and as objects of sympathy treat only their sex, and not the opposite.

2. If both of you are in a happy relationship and make friends in pairs, and even - families.

   If you love your husband / wife, then you simply will not have to search for another object of love.

3. If one is willing to suffer from unrequited love, pretending to be a friend, just to be around.

   I saw an example of such sacrifice in the relations of my parents' friends.

   He adored her from the date of acquaintance, even when they were both 20 years old.

   She did not answer him in return, offering friendship.

   He agreed, hoping that sooner or later the friendship would grow into something more.

   The result of 30 years of their friendship: she is a happy wife and mother of two children, he is unfortunate, twice divorced and still in love with his girlfriend.

Friendship between a man and a woman: how to keep it?

If you still do not want to listen to the opinion of psychologists and hope to maintain friendly relations with your friend of the opposite sex, then perhaps you will need advice from specialists.

The friendship between a man and a woman has a chance of existence if:

1. You will never cross a friendly line: no flirting, ambiguous compliments and other things.

2. Feel free to remind each other that you are exclusively in a friendly relationship.

   In case of incomprehensible situations, be sure to clarify whether you are still friends or something has changed in his / her attitude towards you.

3. Do not spend too much time together.

   Even if this man / woman is your closest friend, do not limit the communication to just one person.

   You must have your own company, your interests, your occupations.

4. Do not tell your friend of the other sex too intimate secrets.

   And indeed, it is not necessary to run and cry to him / her in a vest at the first problems, otherwise sooner or later you will have a reflex: "When I'm sick, this person is near. I want it to be like this always. "

5. Do not play with your friend a man / woman in a family.

   You should not buy products together, choose furniture for an apartment, see your parents, prepare lunches.

   It's all made up of couples, but not friends!

Where and how do I find my person?

In general, the friendship between a man and a woman will persist until the moment you pass the line of friendly relations, that is - do not turn your friendship into love.

Friendship between a man and a woman is possible?

Many people ask: " Is there a friendship between a man and a woman? "answer categorically:" No! ".

Say, I had a friend / girlfriend, everything seemed to be fine, and then he / she, an infection such, take it, and suddenly pulled me out unexpectedly: "I love! I can not live without you!".

This is because people simply ignore the signals that would help them recognize that your friend / girlfriend has begun to experience something more than friendship.

Alarm calls look like this:

1. Your friend unexpectedly starts spending more and more time with you, calling almost every day.

   He is always free or immediately changes his plans if you ask him to meet with you.

2. Your friend is happy to go shopping with you and stand in front of the dressing rooms for hours while you choose your dress.

   Or your girlfriend is ready to go fishing in any weather, although not so long ago she did not even know what the fishing rod looks like.

   That is, people do what they do not like, just to be near you!

3. Your friend of the opposite sex rejects all attempts to acquaint him / her with a cute girl or promising man.

   To him / her, just nobody needs you!

4. Alcohol is a good developer of a true relationship.

   Watch your friend or girlfriend when he / she podshofe: gentle looks, an attempt to take your hand, unexpected jealousy, obsessive attention - the signs that you are experiencing is not a friendly but a romantic relationship.

5. A true friend sincerely desires your personal happiness, therefore he will always point out your mistakes in dealing with your loved one, he will try to reconcile you if he sees that you both suffer, give good advice, get acquainted with a cute colleague, etc.

   But the one / that wants to take the place of your second half, will try, even unconsciously, to destroy your relationship.

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P.S.Enough to deceive yourself!

If you notice at least one of these bells, meaning the approach of the end of of friendship between a man and a woman , then you will have to make a serious decision: to allow your companionship to grow into love or simply cut them off.

To continue to pretend that nothing is happening is to deceive oneself.