People without weakness do not exist in nature!
Even inanimate objects have their strengths and weaknesses.
For example, you bought a chair.
Its strengths - beautiful design, comfortable back, inexpensive value, and weak - poor-quality wood and short rows of operation.
And thus you can disassemble any thing, what can we say about people.
Weaknesses of a person is not a diagnosis that is not subject to appeal, and no reason to hate yourself.
They are even among the most powerful people, they just know how to hide them and do not give enemies the opportunity to take advantage of their weaknesses.
A fine line between strengths and weaknesses of a person
It is difficult to unequivocally answer the question of what personality traits are his weaknesses.
As a child, parents and teachers persuaded us that people should be kind, sympathetic, help the weak, protect them, etc.
But are all these qualities suitable for modern life or can they still fall into the category of " weaknesses of a person "?
Can a good person, who is inferior to everyone, is afraid of offending someone, making a good career?
It is unlikely that he will ever be entrusted with a leading position, because he can not even read a subordinate for a miss and his department will start a confusion and vacillation.
Or here's the responsiveness.
What's all this? Instant response to other people's problems?
So your heart will burst if you absorb all the troubles of humanity.
Helping the weak and protecting them is also a highly controversial phenomenon.
Why do some people work hard all their life and try to change their lives for the better, while others fold their hands and whine: "Oh, it's so hard for me to live, help, please. Of course, there are those who need help: children, old people, invalids, homeless animals.
They just can not take care of themselves.
But often, those who are able to solve all the problems themselves or who have become the source of their problems are required to help.
For example, mothers with many children with their endless requirements of benefits from the state.
That is, we have to pay huge taxes so that some woman would not work anywhere and live because she gives birth and gives birth?
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Another poor and affected by the tyranny of the state - took loans in dollars.
Some guy, forgetting the brains at home, heating up the bucks because he wanted a cool car or a smart apartment, and now he demands that we all pay his whims.
And nothing that he bought a car or home 5 years ago is much more expensive than its original cost, give him a dollar of 5 UAH.
Simply horror what all unhappy and disadvantaged!
P.S.something I broke up. .. 😮
Weaknesses of the person: what are they?
It's very difficult to judge what kind of human traits are weaknesses.
I interviewed a dozen of my friends, asking them to name three of their weak points.
The results were, frankly, surprised.
For example, my cousin cries for anything.
Torn pantyhose, running a stray dog, the divorce of Johnny Depp and Winona Ryder - all this can bring her to tears.
However, there was no excessive emotionality or tearfulness in the list of her weaknesses.
When I asked about this, I heard in response: "I believe that the ability to empathize and deeply feel is my dignity."
And this is not the only case that surprised me during my mini-poll.
I realized that each person for himself determines his own weaknesses.
For every human being - this is what prevents him from living, creates unnecessary problems, then what enemies can always use and what one wants to definitely get rid of.
At my own peril, I still made up my own list of human features, which I consider to be weaknesses:
- laziness;
- excessive aggressiveness and cruelty;
- inability to restrain emotions;
- weak character;
- cowardice;
- is envious;
- talkableness.
All this can play against you.
What can we do to prevent this?
Weaknesses of the person: we subordinate them to ourselves, but we do not submit to them
To struggle with our weaknesses is much more difficult than to give up: "Come on, everyone has shortcomings, accept me as I am!"
But the problem is that to love and accept rights with all its weaknesses can only be loved and loved. To demand from colleagues that they tolerate your laziness or love for gossip - at least, it's strange.
The algorithm of your actions is as follows:
- Write a list of your features that you characterize as "weaknesses".
- Ask the closest people( parents, best friend, loved one), what weaknesses they see in you.
- Compare the two lists and put them together in one - the final one.
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Label your weaknesses with different colors.
For example, red ones are those with which you need to start fighting in the first place, yellow ones that can wait a little, green ones that you do not get in the way.
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Depending on what you have identified in yourself, as weaknesses, start fighting them.
If it's a quick temper, then the program of action will be one, laziness - completely different, etc.
But!
If you are not sure that you will manage yourself with the help of specialized literature, contact a psychologist or trainer for personal growth.
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Learn to hide your weaknesses from people you are getting to know.
This is especially true for those you want to make a good impression on: employers, clients, a young man who is nice to you or a girl you like.
I definitely recommend that you look at the useful video of
from Alex Yanovsky( personal growth coach),
"How are weak sides turned into strong ones: in life and in business?"
Draw conclusions.
And I do not need to tell you that it's impossible to overcome the 's weak sides , because this is what nature has awarded us and what we are obligated to live with.
My friend, from whom everyone started to shy away for her long tongue and excessive emotionality, not only managed to cope with their shortcomings, but also could wrap them in dignity.
First, she took control of emotions under her own control, and also the language that used to live a separate life.
From an accountant( a profession that did not suit her at all) she turned into an advertising agent and is now quite happy and successful.
And you still continue to whine: "I can not, I can not"? !