How to say "no"?

Do you always find it difficult for to say "no" to to anyone? Do you always want to stay good for everyone?

You are not alone.

I also join you, because it was always difficult for me to refuse, because I was afraid to offend others!

Very often I happened to such situations of emergency, when they asked for help, and I postponed all my important affairs and ran headlong for help.

It used to happen that these requests took more than 3 hours of my time from me.

As a result, I did not have time and I had to finish my work late at night, when everyone had been sleeping a long time ago.

And recently I realized that all my failures( and this leads to various problems) only because I simply do not know how to to say "no" to !

In order to get your full time, you need to learn to correctly and politely say "no"!

Why is it so difficult for us to say "no"? !

Why is it so difficult for us to refuse others?

Let's figure out what in the end prevents us from refusing the request!

• Fear of being tough and rude.

  I am a well-bred girl and it is very difficult for me to refuse to help another person - especially if he is older than me.

• Desire to help.

  You have a very kind heart and you never refused to help anyone. You consciously go to the rescue, even if it takes you half a day.

• Fear of burning bridges.

  Most people are afraid of to say no to , because they are sure that relations with the asking will deteriorate and communication will stop.

• Fear of conflict.

  Some people think that as soon as they respond with a refusal - the petitioner will immediately get angry and on this ground the conflict will grow.

  If you approve at least one of the reasons - then we are like you 😉

  Based on your experience in dealing with people, I can assure you that all the reasons given are a complete misunderstanding.

  When you refuse - it does not mean that you are rude and not educated!

  Say "no" - does not mean that you run into a conflict and can lose touch with others in a moment!

  All these silly reasons are only the fruit of your fantasies, because of which humanity suffers.

How to say no? Useful advice!

1. "I'm sorry, but I can not attend to your request, because I was instructed to do a very important job."

   When you are very busy and can not distract yourself - say this phrase, it will make it clear to the asking person that you are on fire and do nottime to be distracted.

2. "I would really like to help you with this task, but at the moment the circumstances do not allow me to do this!"

   This is a soft way for to say no to and it makes it clear to the person that you want to help him, but you do not get it.

3. "I can not help you with this, because I'm not a specialist in this assignment. It is best to contact Vasily Alekseevich. "

   When you are approached with a request to help do something and you understand that this task is beyond your strength, immediately tell the applicant and advise whom you can contact with this request.

4. When you force something to impose, you can say no in this form:

   "Sorry, but this does not correspond to my needs or responsibilities in this period.

5. You can also escape from the answer( evade).

   For example: "Let's see. ..".

   When you feel pressure from another person, you can safely say: "I will try, but I do not promise. ..", "I'll think about it."

6. Try to offer your solution to the problem.

   
   For example: "You know, I think maybe you should. .."

   So you somehow do not agree to help in this task, but help your ideas.

7. Try to change the subject, if for you the request is unpleasant.

   For example: "Oh, by the way, I've been wanting to tell you for a long time - I'm somehow. .."

   Switch not too sharply, as it may seem very suspicious.

   Drop some words randomly, catch on certain phrases of the interlocutor.

   After you switched to another topic of conversation, after a few minutes you can say: "Oh, I almost forgot - I have urgent business, I need to escape! I'll see you again and finish! "😉

8. " Sorry, but I do not have time now to deal with your request, because I have a very important assignment and it requires concentration. Let's talk about your problems a little later! Good? "

   For example, you are on an important meeting with one major client and at this moment, your friends and employees periodically call to your phone.

   That's just the phrase you need and come in handy.

   You let the person know that he did not turn in time, because you are busy, and you correctly show that you do not mind helping with this issue, but only when you are released.

9. "Let me think about this proposal from the very beginning, and then say your answer."

   
   This answer will be good in a situation where you are really interested in helping in a particular task, but you do not want to say yes suddenly.

   It takes time to meditate to weigh the pros and cons, and also be sure that you have chosen the right way - to help a person.

   That asking who seriously needs your help, just will be glad to give you time to think.

   Tell him the time, the day when you can give an answer.

   If you all have considered and made a decision for yourself that you do not want to participate in the help - use point number 3, so that say "no" to .

10. Use the most direct way of to say "no" :

    "Sorry, but no. I can not! "

    When you learn to say" no ", you will feel more confident.

I definitely recommend to watch this video:

« How to say no ?Reasons and advice! »

You will learn a lot of useful and interesting information for yourself!

When you say "no" - you appreciate and respect your time!

You will have more time for yourself.

To say "no" is not at all difficult, you'll see this phrase will greatly facilitate your life.