Who to become: choose your life path

The question: " To become you want, baby?" - All adults start to torture children, since the very young age.

Someone has time to change from a dozen professions during the growing up period and still has no idea what the future class wants to do in the future.

And someone, decided back in 6 years that will treat people or put out fires, does not change the dream.

The latter, true, refer to an endangered species. .. true!

To become: why is it so difficult to solve?

It would seem that in this difficult: really assess their capabilities and choose the road on which it will be interesting to go? !

But for many people this task is simply impossible.

The reasons are different: some, do not want to do anything at all, wanting only to receive money;second, just do not interest in anything, preferring to waste your life in an embrace with the TV;someone is too stupid to draw higher, and often even secondary specialized education, etc.

But even those who know by whom it is possible to become

, are under the influence of additional factors and turn off the path they need for someone else's:

1. Money.

   And it's not even about tuition fees, because no one canceled budget places, but about the various expenses that parents might not be able to afford: tutors, travel, textbooks, fees any.

   Therefore, instead of mastering the specialty - children after grade 11 go to look for work to bring a penny in a meager family budget.

2. Parents.

   This factor is often difficult to overcome, especially if the parents do not adhere to the golden mean in the upbringing.

   The child does not benefit and completely ignore, because everyone needs support and care, and excessive care when mom and dad do not take into account the child's wishes at all, believing that they know best what they need.

3. Place of birth.

   It's one thing to be born in Kiev or Kharkiv with a lot of educational institutions for every taste, and quite another - in a small town where they do not have a dozen.

   Sometimes life develops in such a way that the entrant can not move to another city: lack of willpower, parents do not let him, does not allow health and financial condition, so you have to be content with what is.

What should I become: the story of one failure

Once upon a time there was Galya's girl, smart, she studied well.

But she had one undeniable talent - she wrote beautifully, all the trump cards were in her hands: to become a professional writer or journalist!

Her teacher read the essays before the whole class, as role models.

The girl traditionally changed her decision several times, who to become in the future, and then seriously took an interest in journalism.

She already saw herself as a smart feather shark, whose articles are read.

But the trouble is: in their city there was no higher educational institution, preparing journalists.

In another city, parents did not want to let her go, generally not very approving of this venture.

At the family council, my mother adamantly said: "Choose, dear, from those universities that are in the city!"

There were only three normal schools in the city at that time: the former pedagogical, technological and fire academy.

As Galya was not attracted to exact science or military drill, she decided to enter the faculty of Ukrainian philology, basing herself on the idea that after graduation she would easily find a job.

When she was in her third year, the university management announced that they had decided to create an experimental group, the graduates of which could receive an additional specialty "Journalism".

Galya, flattered, flew home to report the joyful news, but parents who still did not approve of the child's desire to become a journalist refused to give money for training and tried to persuade her daughter not to complicate her life!

The final of the story is not tragic, of course, but sad enough. ..

The journalist could not find work after receiving the diploma, as her parents instilled in her insecurity.

And although she categorically refused to go to school, the present job does not suit her anyway.

She looks with envy at local journalists, armed with notebooks and microphones, suffering from unrealized dreams.

Who to become: what to consider when choosing a profession?

The teenager decides what he wants to do in the future, rather difficult: lack of life experience and perseverance. And then the parents whisper without ceasing: "Enter the Banking Academy, get a specialty that will feed you!".

So the child gets to the university, which is next to the house, in which there are acquaintances in the admissions committee, which, in the parents' opinion, will give their child a promising profession, etc. But nobody takes into account the wishes of the child.

"We all have opportunities about which we do not even suspect.
We are able to do things that we can not even dream about. But if you never dare, you will never know your potential, your capabilities! "
Dale Carnegie

If you are sure that in journalism / jurisprudence / tourism / medicine( the list can be continued and needed to emphasize) your vocation, then with parentsYou can always find touch points.

Just talk to them as an adult, and do not whimper like a child.

In addition, it is necessary to give serious arguments:

1. I can achieve success only in my favorite profession.
2. This specialty is very promising in the labor market.
3. Journalists / doctors / firefighters earn well and others.

You can increase your chances in terms of numbers. It would be good for the conversation to stock up the story of a real person who achieved success in this field.

If you are ready, it's up to you to decide if is , you will be, not mom-daddy.

BUT!

You will also be responsible for this decision, and it will be impossible to wipe the blame on the parents in case of failure( as most people do).

5 farewell tips:

1. Approach the choice of the specialty is thought over: it's one thing to dream of the seas and distant countries, and quite another to spend 9 months a year away from the family in the open sea.
2. In any profession, you can achieve success only through hard work.
3. There are no specialties to be ashamed of.
   Benefits from plumbers, electricians, mechanics are much more than a herd of managers and administrators.
4. Do not forget to consider, submitting documents to the university, the potential salary, the prospects of the specialty and its relevance in the labor market.
   One dreams you will not be full of dreams.
5. Do not ignore your skills and personal qualities - a humanist can hardly achieve great heights in the field of finance.

I recommend watching a small but true video about how

as parents "help" their children to become what they want!

P.S.I advise you to show this video to your parents. ..

And remember, even if you were initially mistaken in choosing a profession, it's never too late to start all over again at 30 and 40 years old!

Errors and their correction is an unchanging component of human life, but cowards do not understand this, preferring to wipe their pants all their lives on the hateful work that they once chose as their parents.