I can not find a job - what can I do?

Occupation occupies an important place in the life of most adults.

On how comfortable we are in the office, how much money our job brings.

Whether we have enough opportunities for self-realization, our mood and even our state of health largely depends.

But what to do to those who are forced to exclaim: " I can not find work !"?

How do they break the vicious circle and find their place in life? Find a position that will bring not only pleasure, but money?

These and other questions will be answered within the article.

I can not find a job: reasons and stereotypes

The fact that a person can not find a job does not happen by itself, but has very specific reasons.

It's not that someone is luckier, but you are not lucky at all.

The fact is that you yourself are mired in stereotypes that do not allow you to realize yourself in the profession, and do not notice the obvious reasons for your unfulfilledness.

"Reasons for which I can not find work"

There are 5 most common reasons that do not allow you to find a job:

1. Unwillingness to find a job.

   This is the most common reason people can not find a job.

   You can persuade yourself and others about how to get off your feet trying to find a suitable position, but somewhere deep in your heart you realize that this is not true.

   Understand why you do not want to find a job: doing things you do not like, wanting to change life, you are more comfortable in the role of "keepers", you want to start your own business, etc.

   As soon as you find the reason, you will understand in which direction you should move.

2. Querying too high.

   Of course, we all want to get the most out of life.

   Profitable position, opportunities for career growth, convenient schedule, impeccable superior, friendly team, simple duties, high salary, etc.

   But think carefully if you are worthy of these requests.

   You can, as an expert, apply for a position, which everyone is dreaming of finding, or for the time being you are content with less, increasing your qualification.

3. Inability to "sell" yourself.

   You can be on your head above all candidates that came for an interview, but if you can not convince the manager, you will not be able to find a job for a long time.

   The ability to "sell" is just as important as high qualifications and flawless professional skills.

4. You are not there trying to find work.

   Your mother claims that recruitment agencies are robbers, and the Internet is a haven of charlatans, so you can not find a job there?

   You believe her and act the old fashion: study ads in the newspaper and purposefully bypass the offices in the hope that they have a free vacancy.

   Do not be stupid! You need to use all the possibilities to find a really good job.

5. You do not use all your advantages.

   Do you feel ashamed to contact a relative working in the government to help you find a breading place?

   And it's embarrassing to write a summary of all your advantages and praise yourself on the interview? You are not right.

   I can tell you with confidence: those who quickly climb the career ladder, use all their advantages.

   Do the same for you, to find what you need.

Stereotypes dominated by people that can not find work

But perhaps the most serious reason you can not find a job is that you have become a victim of stereotypes.

In fact, the stereotypes that are imposed on us since childhood, seriously destroy life, and - both personal and professional.

If you can handle them, nothing will stand between you and the work of your dream.

Basic stereotypes that do not allow you to find work:

1. "Yes, well, such a small salary".

   If you are a young specialist without serious experience, then you need to look for not a large salary( which someone is unlikely to offer you).

   A promising position and a large company in which you can grow and develop.

2. "This work is not prestigious."

   Of course, in the eyes of people to be a doctor - much more prestigious than being a plumber, but who said that these people are right.

   It is important not to look for an imaginary prestige, but to choose a specialty in which you can easily realize and which will bring money.

   Do you like agriculture and understand it well?

   So spit on the opinions of people and become a farmer, only - a farmer with a thriving economy and large incomes.

3. "Working on the Internet is not serious."

   Come on! I can tell you with all the credibility of a person who makes money on the Internet( and not bad money), say: "Get rid of your cave stereotypes."

   The network today offers much better opportunities for professional implementation than a poor state organization or a tiny, breath-taking company.

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4. "All these newfangled professions - not for long".

   When five years ago my friend from a small regional center spat on the lack of prospects in her regional newspaper and became a freelance copywriter.

   Everyone, including her close relatives, twisted around the temple: "How can I change real work on the Internet, the name of which can not be uttered?"

   Then she was supported only by her husband, who was tired of an eternally jerky, evil wife, who "did not stick" at work.

   Now she earns 3 times more than her former colleagues, she chooses customers, topics and schedule of work.

5. "The main thing is stability."

   Aha, Viktor Fedorovich seemed to be saying something like that and see where he is now.

   If there is a choice between a tedious state organization, in which one can only be expected to rise after the death of old cadres, and young.

   But a promising firm, choose the second option without hesitation.

2 stories of losers who can not find a job

As if I did not bother about the difficulties of modern life, I believe that all are provided with wonderful conditions for implementation.

Just not everyone considers it necessary to use them.

Often those who moan: "I can not find a job", just do not really want to look for it.

They constantly find a screen behind which you can hide, so as not to grow up and take responsibility in the profession.

I think the stories of two unintentional losers will convince you of this.

1) "I can not find a job - the depression has tortured!"

With this story, I ran into the Internet, but I know for sure that it was written by a real person, because I know this girl and found her( photo on the avatar was real).

Anya graduated from the university with a red diploma in finance.

It would seem that education is excellent, specialization is chosen profitable, work in the direction is sufficient and it is not difficult to find it.

But. ..

After working for 3 years in the bank, the girl married a colleague, gave birth to a child and left for the decree.

While she was in the decree, their bank was closed, that is, from leave to care for the child, Ana had nowhere to go.

It would seem, what's the problem: look for another place - in every city of those banks, even a dime a dozen. But Anina's search dragged on for 2 years.

To each and everyone at the meeting, as well as in her post at the forum, the girl cried: "I can not get a job, lost faith in myself, I have depression, etc.etc.".

The guests of the forum initially reacted with understanding to the tragedy of the girl: they consoled, encouraged, told their stories that they could not immediately find a vacant position that would suit them in all respects.

But it seemed that Anya just could not hear them - she continued to ache about the misfortunes that fell on her, depression and so on.

The members of the forum started to suspect something and ask clarifying questions: "How many interviews was there?", "For what reason do employers refuse you?", "What does not suit you in this or that position?", Etc.

From the answers of Ani it turned out, all around - bad, she is a good one, nobody understands her and her dream job( what it should be, the girl herself does not understand) no one offers.

And then rushed. ..

In general, I will not retell everything, I will only say that the members of the forum have put Ana an accurate diagnosis: she just does not want to find a place.

Perhaps the girl relaxed after the decree, perhaps in due time simply wrongly chose a profession, there may be other reasons.

It will become much easier for her if she honestly admits to herself that she does not need a job in a bank and will try to realize herself in another profession or find happiness in the role of mom and housewife.

2) "I can not find a job in Moscow, as I'm not trying. .."

The second story was told to me by Ira's friend who has been living in Moscow for 5 years now.

Once she was not afraid of the difficulties associated with moving to the capital of another country, was not afraid to pass a super complicated interview for a position in an international company, and eventually was able to find a highly paid job she adored.

One day, friends pulled Ira to a party, and there one young man tried to stick to her. The young man was a Muscovite, he was proud, lived with his parents and in his 24 years did not work.

On the direct question of my friend: "Why?" Waved: "I can not find a job in Moscow."

"I was so amazed at that time," Ira says, "that I was still impressed for a few more days."

I, like my friend, can not believe that in a multimillion-dollar city, one of the world's capitals, in a village where such opportunities open up, where many are dreaming of moving many precisely because of the large number of well-paid positions.

A native Muscovite from a good family with higher education can not find a job.

Most likely, it's all a matter of laziness, infantile and spinelessness of a young man, and also - in the irresponsibility of his parents, who calmly contain a high-age idler.

What to do from the "I can not find a job" syndrome? How to deal with this?

From the fact that you will continually whine: "I can not, I can not find a job at all," you will not improve your life in any way.

To be realized in the profession and at the same time to materially secure your future, you need to act.

And you need to start acting now, without delaying everything until you have another reason why you are still unemployed.

To do to find a job:

1. Decide what you want from life.

   Even if you have already received an education, even if you have some working guard, honestly answer yourself to the question: "Do I want to do this all my life".

   If you dream about something else, it's never too late to change direction.

   If you are firmly confident in choosing a profession, then think about how it is better to realize it:

   • doing business;
   • starting from scratch in a large company;
   • spinning out a small but promising firm;
   • staying in their hometown or moving to a larger settlement, etc.

How to build a career?

2. Make a perfect resume.

   Resume - this is what the employer sees before getting to know you, and if it is made with errors, then you have little chance of finding a good job.

   You can not create a resume yourself, pay a specialist from a recruitment agency or be inspired by samples on the Internet.

   Distribute your resume to all companies you would like to work with, even those that seem unavailable.





3. Learn how to behave properly in an interview.

   If your resume is like an employer, then the next stage, which is to be completed, is an interview.

   Do not be late for an interview.

   To find a common language with the employer, you must behave in an interview:

   • calmly;
   • is confident;
   • is charming;
   • unladen;
   • polite.

   And do not forget to smile, competently and deployed to answer questions.

   And be sure to take care of your appearance to make a favorable impression.
   

4. Remove all dirt from social networks.

   Social networks today are a kind of test for adequacy.

   Thanks to the posted photos and posts, you can see how people who seemed completely normal to you, are revealed in a negative light.

   Serious companies monitor the social networks of their employees( including future ones).

   Remove from the pages everything that can compromise you: nude photos, with alcohol and cigarettes, indecent jokes, posts that allude to your racial or religious intolerance, and the like.

5. Do not try to jump above your head.

   Going to the clothing store, you know your size.

   If you wear L, will it ever occur to you to try and squeeze into a S-size dress?

   I do not think so, because it's stupid.

   You should also do the job you want to find: try on the position and the company of your tiznik.

6. Do not be afraid to take a chance.

   You are offered to take an excellent position with a good salary, but for this you need to move to another city.

   What stops you?

   Do your friends and relatives stay here?

   So with modern means of communication with them, you can keep in touch.

   Fear that it will not work?

   Well, it will not work, so come home.

   Do not be afraid to take risks, otherwise it will be difficult to find a good job.

7. Do not freeze in one place.

   At one time you could easily find a good job, but over the years you began to realize that you stopped growing, the salary does not suit you, and you want a career ascent?

   It's time to try and find another job.

   It is not necessary to start roots in one place.

For current tips on how to find a job without work experience, see in the video:

If, despite all attempts, you keep repeating: " I can not find the job ", then you need to overcome this mountain with the help of a professional.

For example, a coach for personal growth or a psychologist specializing in professional implementation, or an employee of a recruitment agency, who is able to solve even difficult tasks.