5 tips for dealing with loneliness

Loneliness. ..

Already in this word lies a terrible hopelessness!

Man is created as a creature of a paired, herd, so it's so hard to be isolated.

Yes, I know about feminism, childfree and other fashionable trends that assert that a self-sufficient person can quite do without love, friendship, children and other things.

I'm actually against the kinks and in one and the other direction!

If you are bored with yourself and you can not do without companies and communication at all - it's bad, but if any communication or living with someone for you is a burden - this is also abnormal.

You need to find the middle ground.

Adaptation to the social environment - the topic of another article, and today I want to share with you, how to deal with the loneliness of !

"I do not need to deal with loneliness!"

I graduated from the faculty, where the teaching staff was 80% female, and the overwhelming number of ladies were lonely.

And if, looking at some, I understood why not only men but also friends ran away from them far away, then the loneliness of others was perplexing.

Clever, beautiful women, earn well, merry, not stinkers - what else do these men need?

Indeed, in the modern world there is such a paradox: loneliness is most often suffered by worthless men and successful women.

I do not need to consider the first case, but on the second one I would like to dwell in more detail.

At first these ladies studied, then they tried to gain a foothold at work, to defend the thesis and there was not much time for dating.

A, reaching a certain level, they can no longer look at a man with 9 classes of education and dirty nails.

What's left? Loneliness? No!

You can overcome the loneliness of if you want.

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If someone claims to feel completely normal without having a number of loved ones and friends, then he either lies or has serious psychological problems. .. and I'm not kidding!

My second cousin works under the guidance of a retired superintendent.

A woman divorced after three years of family life, then she raised her own son, she did not marry more, and even had no perspective relationship.

So, the intrigues for the sake of profit, the details of which are still savored by the elder colleagues of the sister.

The son grew up, moved to another city, she could not find a common language with her daughter-in-law, that's why she sees grandchildren on big holidays, she lives alone in the company of cats.

But the most strange is not even this, but the attitude of an adult woman who sincerely hates all married people and repeats the phrase: "Oh, I could not get along with anyone! !!"

And now tell me that this lady does not have serious psychologicalproblems?

But from it there is a benefit: the girls in the department were so afraid of repeating her fate, that all quickly rasskazkivali married and very much appreciate their families!

Why is it so hard to struggle with loneliness?

Any problems and life difficulties do not arise from nowhere.

They are the consequence of our actions, taken( or unacknowledged) decisions and behavior patterns. Loneliness is no exception.

The most common reasons that a person turns out to be useless are the following:

1. Overabundance.

   It's not necessary to grab the first man / woman that comes to hand, but also to look for shortcomings in potential bridegrooms / brides all your life, not a way out.

   Ideal people do not exist, all have their shortcomings, you need to decide whether you can put up with those or other traits of character and habits of another person?

2. Selfishness and laziness.

   Any relationship is not an easy job to work on for the rest of your life!

   Yes, yes, do not just go with the flow and all the waving, namely, to work hard!

   For a marriage or friendship to be successful, you sometimes have to give in, sometimes show flexibility, sometimes sacrifice your own interests.

   We must remember that you are not only me, but also WE!

3. Excessive aggressiveness.

   Authority, a tendency to hysterics, cruelty, tediousness and other bad character traits with which one can and must fight not only for the sake of others, but also for oneself.

4. An untidy appearance.

   You can be an interesting person, but no one will want to meet a woman who walks with dirty hair and pantyhose with arrows, or a man with a beer belly and a bad smell from her mouth. Meet really for the clothes!

5. Excessive assertiveness in a relationship.

   People who are too in a hurry to to overcome the loneliness of are frightened.

   If you for years will languishly take care of a girl, then, most likely, she will leave you. But also planning on your second date your family life, achieve the same effect.

   Keep a sense of proportion!

How to deal with loneliness - 5 tips:

On the question how to overcome the loneliness of , the specialists most often answer: "By means of communication!"

Indeed, if you have an interesting job in a good team, loyal friends, hobbies and you supporta warm relationship with the family, then the lack of a second half will not be perceived so acutely!

You can cope with suffering by following the following recommendations:

1. Do not get hung up on the fact that you are alone now.

   Take a break in your personal life, as temporary difficulties that will necessarily end!

2. Do not be embittered.

   From the fact that you will hate your girlfriend / friend, who just "zashib" in your personal life, you will not be happier!

   Hatred devouring you will sooner or later affect the face and this will scare away men / women.

   Better sincerely rejoice at the arranged personal life of a friend and program yourself to repeat its success!😉

3. Love life - live interesting.

   Attend theaters, museums, exhibitions, work as a volunteer in a charitable organization.

   Having free time with you is a matter of envy of married women and married men, use it for personal growth.

   In addition, in such places you have a real chance to get acquainted with like-minded people.

4. Internet is not just a social network.

   
   It offers many opportunities for communication, which from a virtual one can easily turn into a real one.

   The main thing is that there is no dependence on the Internet.

5. Find someone who needs your love.

   If you are not yet lucky enough to find your man, share your warmth with children, animals, elderly people who need your help.

   A kitten or puppy at home will drive away loneliness, and the birth of a child without a husband has long been considered a crime( this is certainly the most extreme option).

I propose to look at an interesting conclusion of scientists,

on how it is possible for older people to struggle with loneliness:

To cope with the loneliness of is quite simple.

The main thing is not to drown in it, do not shut yourself off from the world and do not start feeling sorry for yourself.