I very often hear from my friends, former colleagues and female friends the phrase like: " I'm a fool " that if for every answer to it: "Stop being slandered!" - gave at least the 1sthryvnia, I could easily buy gold earrings with emeralds, which fell in love 2 weeks ago!
I confess honestly: I myself got rid of this bad habit just a few years ago after a very unpleasant incident for me.
My former leadership used to often invite a great psychologist to conduct trainings.
And now, performing some task, I made a mistake and said very quietly: "I'm a fool!"
But Olga Ivanovna, our psychologist, heard her and flew at me with a vulture: "Do not ever dare speak of yourself like that! Firstly, this phrase painfully beats by self-esteem, and secondly, by repeating it, you program your life for the existence of a small fool. Sooner or later you yourself will believe in what really is a fool! "
I, having listened to this public rebuke in public, swore to myself that I would never say anything like this and would not let others!
"I'm a fool."Or where do the roots come from?
I'm sure that such a bad habit women have acquired in those days when men dominated in all spheres of activity!
Representatives of a strong poda were actually deity at home.
Their word was paramount, despite the fact that the woman was gradually dragging herself into her homeland and other duties.
It was extremely convenient for the men to smile condescendingly and mentally say to themselves: "Oh, what a lovely little fool. Well, what to take from it? "
Remember the conversation between Scarlett O'Hara and Rhett Butler in the book Gone with the Wind, when the main character complained to him that the whole city was up against her only because of success in business, whileother women are also working to support the family in the difficult post-war period.
Rhett then responded to something like:
"But they do not bring pleasure to their activities, and you - brings. About them, men can say: "Ah, these little fools are trying so hard, so let's show them that they help us a lot." But to you this phrase has nothing to do with! "
Quotation, certainly not exact, the novel has been read a very long time, but the meaningIts that.
I can understand the existence of such views in the XVIII or XIX century, but in fact today's women are fully restored in their rights.
They can engage in any activity, successfully climb the career ladder, manage states and save people's lives.
And after all done, do not hesitate to talk about yourself: " I'm a fool !"
That's why you, ladies, do not think about how much harm this phrase is causing your future and present?
In my opinion, this happens for two reasons:
- It's profitable for women to pretend to be fools.
- They do not understand how much weight each word has in our lives.
"Why am I such a fool?"
My mother had a friend Tamara - a candidate of historical sciences, taught at a local university, in general, the most intelligent woman.
But with her personal life she did not develop in any way.
At first she was too involved in science, believing that there was still enough time for love.
When she defended her Ph. D. thesis, it turned out that all peer colleagues were snapped up by more vocal women representatives 5 years ago.
She honestly tried to go on dates, but somehow they did not add up.
10 years, she tried unsuccessfully to find her man, with whom she would be comfortable, and then in her life appeared Grigory.
He just started his business and, perfectly figuring in numbers.
He idolized Tamara for what she knows so much and tells him all sorts of interesting things on dates.
Mom's girlfriend blossomed and was convinced that she had finally met the prince.
But when they began to live together, serious problems arose: Grigory used to solve everyday problems himself and believed that with a woman there was nothing to worry about repairs, about paying for utilities and so on.
Tamara, having lived long alone, wanted to show him that he knows everything and knows everything.
Frequent quarrels actually led to the collapse of relations, while my mother's friend did not think about: "Why do I climb all this? Let him figure it out himself, and I'll pretend I do not understand anything! "
And all, the scandals seemed to have evaporated.
Tamara was engaged exclusively in women's work and science, her husband - all the rest.
Once, while visiting them, my mother asked her: "Tom, and you want to pretend that you have no idea what the papers with tsiferkami throw you in the mailbox every month?"
To which she replied: "Olya, Iso tired of being smart, I'd rather be a fool! "
Now Tamara is really happy.
She recently defended her doctoral dissertation, and Uncle Grisha is making plans for European-quality repair - just an idyll.
I all lead to this, that sometimes it is even useful for a woman to pretend to be stupid and ignorant in some issues, as Tamara did, but you can not call yourself a "fool" in any way.
Stop saying: "I'm stupid!"
Calling yourself a "fool" - you can not, even alone with yourself, and even more so - say such nonsense in someone's presence, especially the male.
With every phrase "I'm stupid!", "I'm bald!", "I'm stupid!" You not only poison your life, but also program negative attitudes towards yourself.
Sooner or later your second half will believe that you are a fool and will start treating you accordingly. So, will cease to respect and love!
Well, who, in fact, loves mindless silly?
They are either spared or held as a piece of furniture.
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Even a long time ago we knew what we are talking about - it significantly affects the power industry near us!
That's why it was not customary in your own house or near the water to swear and swear.
It was believed that the walls and water are being fed by poor energy.
It is believed that the chef's mood and the phrases spoken by him affect the cooked food.
Even if the real virtuoso of cooking curses and defames his subordinates, the guests of the restaurant instead of a delicious dish will taste the poison.
The same thing happens when you say to yourself every day: " Why am I such a fool ?"
Maybe you do not notice, but with every phrase you say, you really become stupider, you break the harmony around andprogram yourself to fail.
Immediately stop destroying your life.
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Oh, and cunning fox Ksenia Sobchak, but still wise!
. .. "Maxim is clever, and I'm a fool's fool!"
P.S.I hope most smart women understand her phrase!😉