If you interview 10 of your friends that they understand by the phrase " be happy ", then, most likely, get 10 different answers excluding each other.
Indeed, everyone understands happiness in their own way.
Someone thinks that the main thing is material well-being, someone will give everything for their family.
Who for happiness needs to realize himself, and someone does not represent his life without serving people.
Most often you can hear that happiness is the absence of problems.
The most interesting thing is that absolutely everything is right, because happiness is so individual that it will not be possible to try on someone else.
What do you need for happiness to be happy?
I have two student friends: Lida and Natasha.
Both clever, both beauties, both with full, normally earning families, in general - average girls with good natural data and without any problems. That's just the attitude to life they have the opposite.
Lida is a terrible perfectionist, constantly on the move, looking for flaws in everything, she has already managed to build a good career and she does not intend to stop.
Natasha is a less successful person who is accustomed to enjoying all the events in his life: leaves on trees, trips in urban transport( as she says: "it's better there"), the original of inexpensive furniture - and accepts bad luck as signs of fate:"Do not come in!
Do you think which one is right?
I think that the majority will vote for Lida.
Indeed, a single-minded successful girl, not that Natasha.
And I'll tell you that both are wrong.
Natasha - because she can not overcome difficulties and agrees to be content with small, and Lida - because she does not know how to rejoice in successes and weakly understands how to be happy .
But if you ask me which of them is the happier, I will answer without hesitation - Natasha!
She knows how to enjoy even small things, which few people pay attention to: a freshly painted staircase, frolicking puppies, fresh pastries and so on.
And really important events lead her into raptures.
I often admire these qualities of a friend, although I abuse her sometimes, that she could achieve more if she tried.
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What prevents you from being happy?
As can be seen from the example of my friends, happiness is not always a synonym for a successful career, material security and other benefits.
Sometimes our own character traits, complexes and prejudices interfere with us.
Let's try to figure out which ones.
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Already mentioned perfectionism.
Yes, you need to be critical of yourself, yes, any work needs to be done impeccably, yes, you need to put a high bar to become successful, but you can not turn it into a mania.
Before conquering the next peak, you need to take a five-minute breathing space and enjoy the work already done, praise yourself, reward the expensive purchase or vacation in the coveted country.
One can not stop at what has been achieved, but also to break forward, headlong, without enjoying life, also impossible.
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Old grievances.
Even if you really hurt: colleagues, the other half, friends and you are angry with them is completely justified, you should not cherish and cherish this feeling.
Release it, forget it, step over and you will immediately feel happier.
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Fear.
This is not about fear of darkness or monsters.
I am now talking about "people who are experiencing anxiety".
Let this definition and the wrong from the standpoint of philology, but it really best describes one of my colleagues.
She worries for any reason: whether the article is well written, whether the tap will run at home, whether the pie is baked, whether it will recover in a year, etc.etc. Even in the most joyful moments, her face does not leave a frightened expression.
Well, such a person can not understand how to be happy .
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Too much dreaminess.
Those who live in a world of dreams can never be happy in reality.
They are so focused on their fantasies, which are often far from real life, that they do not notice the happy events around.
They are waiting for the prince of a dream, not noticing a caring cute guy nearby, dreaming of fame or exciting work( scout, diplomat, supermodel), scoring on their daily duties.
What is happiness: thoughts aloud
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Envy, love of gossip, hate, cruelty - in general, qualities inherent in bad people.
Anger generally destroys and does not give pleasure to life.
If you feel happy only by making a dirty trick to another person, I sincerely feel sorry for you, honestly!
I want to be happy!
It is this setup that will help you experience positive emotions on a daily basis.
A prescription for a drug called "how to be happy" consists of only two components:
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- Become.
It's really not difficult if you learn to take dignity with destiny, do not stop there, sincerely enjoy not only your successes, but also those around you.
I also want to share a cognitive video,
where the author talks about happiness. ..
( liked his thoughts)
We look and motivate!
You just need to understand that only in fairy-tales life consists exclusively of joyful moments, reality is much more complicated.
The main thing is not to focus on troubles!
Believe me, tests are sent to us for a reason, but for us to learn from them.
If you think that the black band in your life is delayed, look for bright moments, even if they are very insignificant.
Sooner or later you will get used to to be happy every day . ..