Do you know what the most important enemy is on the road to our success?
Self-doubt and doubts in their abilities!
Fear is quite a standard feeling that all people experience.
If we, for example, decided to start a business, change our profession, accept a proposal of the hand and heart, in general, we decide on an important step, then it goes without saying that we begin to doubt, weigh the pros and cons, but sometimesdoubts do not allow to make the right decision!
Doubts about the correctness of the choice and the analysis of the situation is normal, but self-doubt is evil!
Today we will learn to fight this vile feeling!
Why can not my girlfriend overcome my self-doubt?
One of my school friends is called Oksana.
I adore her for her kind heart and willingness to always help, but sometimes she drives me insane with her doubts.
Its insecurity in itself is manifested even in the simplest situations.
For example, I love shopping, but shopping with Oksana is a real hell!
I spend a lot of time and energy to persuade her to buy this or that thing.
Sometimes my monologues can last for half an hour, and my girlfriend doubts and doubts. ..
Naturally, serious life issues make her unsure of herself bloom with a violent color. ..
For example, she did not become a journalist, although she dreamed about this profession, becauseFor too long she doubted: would she go to another specialty or stay on philology?
I did not get a well-paid job at a travel agency because I was not sure if she would be able to retrain from a museum employee in a tour guide?
I lost an excellent guy who madly loved her because of 2 months, could not decide whether to accept his offer or not( although he did not insist on a short-term wedding)?
In general, not so much fun. ..
I tried to help than I could: I threw in the necessary literature, gave advice, even reduced it to the training: " How to overcome the uncertainty of ?", But it was not enough.
How to develop self-confidence: 10 tips for
The situation has moved from a dead center after the meeting of graduates.
It turned out that our classmate Anya, who was not diligent in studies, with great intelligence and beauty, worked as a clothing store director, traveled half the world and was married to an assistant to the deputy of the Verkhovna Rada of Ukraine.
Oksana was surprised and depressed, but I explained to her that Anya had achieved such successes, simply because she overcame the uncertainty and was convinced in her happy future at school!
5 delicious recipes, how to overcome the uncertainty in yourself
Uncertainty, it can be different.
Some doubt their external attractiveness, others do not believe that they deserve personal happiness, while others are afraid to go to increase or change the place of work, because they do not expect to be able to cope.
- Do you remember the old cartoon about the coyote that chased the birdie? There the coyote rushes along the top of the ridge, runs to the cliff and continues running for a while, and then suddenly looks down and discovers that it is running through the air?
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- You know, - he says, - I always wondered what would have happened if he had not looked down. Would the air still be as firm until it reached the opposite end? I think I would stay, and I also think that the same thing is happening to all of us. We rush forward through the cliff, keeping an eye on those things that matter, but then something - some fears, a lack of self-confidence - forces us to look down. And then we understand that we are running through the air, panic is enveloping us, and we turn around and rush headlong back. And if they did not look down, they would just run across to the other side. There, where is what matters.
Jonathan Tropper. Book Joe
You can overcome the uncertainty of with simple exercises.
You need to do them within 1 - 2 months, well, or until finally you say goodbye to your nasty quality!🙂
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I'm all the nicer in the world.
Forget the phrases: "I'm terrible," "I'm fat," "I'm ugly."First, it's not fair to people who nature really awarded physical defects. Remember the parable of a man who constantly complained that he did not have boots, until he saw a dead man.
Secondly, take the habit of smiling every morning to your reflection in the mirror and telling yourself three compliments.
Thirdly, if you really have any shortcomings, they can be completely corrected: gym, cosmetologist, make-up artist, stylist, hairdresser - all these people make their customers more attractive!
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I'm not afraid of errors
Let some of the phrases are nailed up, but they do not lose their relevance.
"No one who does nothing does not make mistakes" is one of such maxims.
Everyone went to the top, falling and going up, making mistakes and correcting them.
Why should you be an exception? Do study the biographies of famous personalities, and you will see how many mistakes they made before they became the object of admiration of the whole world.
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I deserve happiness
If you are a girl, then for sure you love( or loved) books and films about love.
Do you remember how many difficulties awaited the couple in love on the road to happiness?
Any marriage is a job, but in your power to make it as pleasant as possible.
Are you, by stupid insecurities, ready to lose your man?
Watch movies about world-famous love stories( not necessarily real ones), read fiction( I do not need to be reminded that newspapers on paper with paperbacks with golden-haired and heavenly-eyed main characters do not apply to such).
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I will cope with
In Ukrainian there is a magnificent proverb "Do not sacred miners lisplyat"( "No saints make pots").The leader whom you admire, also started with a shallow post.
And if he doubted his strength, he would still be a courier.
But he took a chance and won!
For a month, keep a journal of your achievements at work.
The main thing, do not be modest!
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Go beyond your comfort range
Do you feel great on an old job surrounded by friends and family, but everything new is incredibly scary for you?
Once in 2-3 days, do something atypical for yourself, get out of your comfort zone: sign up for the gym, buy a bright dress, go to the cinema unaccompanied, contact the chef with a rationalization proposal, meet a guy on the street, translategrandmother across the road - an endless list. ..
The effect will be stronger if you get a diary in which each time you write down your achievements and mistakes to analyze them.
Be sure to check out this small but very powerful video!
For 50 seconds will be pronounced excellent words,
over which it is worth pondering!
Always be confident!
Till now have not understood, how to overcome uncertainty in itself ?
Yes, at least stop doubting that these exercises will help you.
Just try it and you will succeed.