Since the childhood parents teach us to tell the truth , arguing that it's better to admit that I broke the vase, colored the wallpaper, got a deuce or made some other dirty trick than lying and wriggling.
We were not even punished, if we immediately repented of the deed.
But gradually we grew up and realized that sometimes it's better to lie.
Well, that's why my mother knows about the deuce, if you have already fixed it, or why admit that you broke the cup, if you can buy the same one quickly for pocket money.
This is a lie for good!
Our parents did not always set a good example. ..
For example, the phone is ringing, and my dad says to my mother: "Pick up the phone, if Ivan Ivanovich is calling, then I'm not at home" or "We will not tell grandma and grandfather that you have been ill with the flu, so as not to upset them, "etc.
Did you have this?
Similar examples for sure, each will be typed at least a dozen.
Gradually we comprehend the skill of lying: first, on trifles that seem to us harmless, then deception becomes more serious and the surrounding people begin to suffer from it, and then the worst happens - the lie becomes a habit.
And, in a rather bad habit, which destroys the liar himself.
But there is a chance of salvation!
Just need to find out how to learn to tell the truth !
Hello, I'm Tanya, and I often lie
Girl Tanya really exists.
I once worked as a senior administrator in a beauty salon.
We were in the administrative staff was missing one person.
The girl came for an interview: nice, confident, with knowledge of languages, with good recommendations and work experience.
I was present at the interview, which was conducted by the director.
One of her questions was: "Do you have any disadvantages?" Tanya smiled sweetly and replied: "Yes, I sometimes lie".
It was said with such treacherousness that it seemed more like a joke.
Answer, frankly, a little embarrassed, but otherwise the girl seemed an ideal candidate and we took it.
In the course of the work it turned out that Tanya was not kidding at all and she was really a pathological liar.
Moreover, we could not understand why she wrote stories about a trip to the sea for the weekend, invented a non-existent dialogue with the client, or that without her participation, a certain registration of the company would not have taken place, and also lied about buying candy, which we served in the salon for tea.
There were no benefits to her from this box, she was in trouble, because she was lying to hide her oversight, she did not even rush to fix it.
After a few months of work, the girls-administrators began to complain that they, too, are beginning to lose touch with reality and they think that they are working with a mentally unhealthy person.
Tanya had to be fired.
The director advised her to go to a psychologist and find out how to learn to tell the truth .
That's when I realized that a liar is not a harmless person and he really needs treatment. ..
Conscience, but let's go on a compromise?
Have you ever noticed that successful people are characterized by directness and honesty, not only with others, but also with themselves.
Life in lies is the lot of losers!
The fact is that it is very difficult to achieve success by constantly telling lies and giving out wishful thinking.
For example, imagine that the vacation is over, and you have not gone anywhere.
It does not matter what prevented you, the main thing is that there are no new impressions, as there are no photos that can be shared on social networks.
And tomorrow to work and now you are sitting and thinking: "It's all going to think that I'm a loser or a beggar. And I'll take it and write a fascinating story about my trip. And about the lack of photos I'll say, they say, the camera broke or something else. "
And it all happened to you.
Colleagues poahali, congratulated on a successful trip, posokrushalis about the lost photos.
Everything is fine, but there are several BUT:
- , firstly, you deceived people's trust, and therefore committed a meanness, and, if this is not the case, then the cat will be crossed at heart;
- secondly, the fear that your lies will be exposed will become a constant companion;
- thirdly, you went on a bad road: replaced the fiction of reality, if this is often a sin, then you will be bogged down in the fantasy world and - "Hello, people in white coats."
- Fourth, lies will never allow you to become successful, because it is much easier to lie than to achieve the goal.
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If you do not agree to a fake instead of a real successful life, it's time to learn to tell the truth.
All ingenious is really simple!
of the Soviets on how to learn to tell the truth will be only three, and I, in fact, warned that all genius is simple.
How to learn to tell the truth - tips:
1. Stop lying to yourself.
Wrong: This skirt became narrow, because it sat down after washing.
Correctly: I recovered, you need to stop hamyachi in the evening, and finally make an appointment in the gym, and then completely different!
2. Stop lying to others.
Wrong: Marinochka, you go these magnificent curls.
That's right: Forgive me, Marina, but I liked your old hairstyle more. With smooth hair, you look so stylish, but now it looks like an 80-year-old old lady, alas. ..
3. Always keep these promises.
Wrong: Yes, here work with your computer for five minutes, tomorrow everything will be ready. And a week later: "Well, it's not my fault that I did not have the right disk!"
Correct: I'll see if I have all the necessary disks with the programs and will call back. I think the work will not take more than a week.
5 reasons why people lie!
You may think that the described situations are petty and will not play a big role in your life, but you are mistaken.
A large plant grows from a small seed.
Here it is you need: to become the owner of a huge baobab of lies?
Such a pet in life, successful people do not need!
I propose to watch a small video - I think everyone will see himself in it!
Maybe it's time to stop fawning and start telling the truth?
If I still have not convinced you, then think, after all, about your health.
Irritability, problems with sleep and digestion, headaches, not leaving a sense of anxiety, sudden mood swings - that's the constant companions of professional liars.