Electra: what is it?

Today we will talk about serious things: about a complex that can completely destroy the life of a woman, if you can not get rid of it in time, called Electra .

But first I would like to remind you of how much your life can change if you feed it daily with useful information.

Myth, which gave the name Electra

Greek myths are not only very interesting fiction, but also a great material for research of historians, literary critics, linguists, psychologists.

Surely all my readers have heard about Oedipus complex( unhealthy love of boys for their mother), whose name refers us to the ancient Greek myths.

The situation is similar with its mirror image: by Electra complex - too much affection of daughters to their own fathers. He was introduced into psychological literature by Jung as early as the beginning of the 20th century, and it was also based on one of the myths of ancient Greece, the plot of which was used by many writers and artists.

In one of the cities of ancient Hellas, there lived an ordinary royal family: King Agamemnon, his wife Clytemnestra and their two children - Electra and Orestes.

Electra - father's favorite, his treasure - was a happy child.

The trouble came, where did not expect.

Wrong Clytemnestra found the lover of Aegisthus.

Husband, of course, was a hindrance, so he was eliminated. The prodigal queen also sent the children out of sight and began to enjoy the reign with her lover.

How to learn to forgive? Recommendations from the psychologist

The only thing that did not take into account Clytemnestra - the immense love that her daughter Elektra experienced to her own father.

The girl vowed to take revenge and, together with her brother, killed, first the lover of the mother, and then herself.

Why is the Electra complex dangerous?

At first glance, it may seem that there is nothing dangerous in the love of his own father, unless, of course, we are not talking about the sexual background and the desire to live with the parent, as with a man.

But in fact, too strong emotional attachment of girls to the pope turns into serious problems for them.

Most often the Electra complex occurs in girls who lost their father early: he died or left them with his mother.

But sometimes girls become victims of quite normal families.

My mother at work has a colleague who has suffered for a long time from this complex.

Despite the fact that Lyudochka is already under 50, she still demands that her so-called even young colleagues, because that's what her adored daddy calls her.

She clearly did not marry, because she did not find an exact copy of her father.

In his neyonye years he continues to live with his parents, because he can not part with his father for a day.

Even from career growth refused, because I would often have to travel on business trips, which would mean leaving my parent for a long time.

Mom for this unfortunate woman is the number one enemy, because she was never worthy to live with such a magnificent man as her father, and she never understood how lucky she was.

In Lyudochka's life there is nothing: neither her family, nor her career, nor her hobbies, nor bright impressions.

All this she sacrificed for the sake of an unhealthy love for her father.

Mom says: "We are afraid of what she would do with herself when her father dies, because he does not have a young age at all."

In general, the picture looms very creepy.

With such a running complex, Electra will have to fight for a long time and without the help of psychologists there is no way to do. But the hardest thing is to convince Lyudochka in his presence.

It will be much easier for those who diagnose this complex at an early stage.

10 features of the Electra

Complex If you try, it's not difficult to diagnose the Electra complex yourself, because it has pronounced symptoms:

1. You do not have a father for a long time, but you very often remember about him and in moments of joy and moments of sadness, constantly take offense at him, that he left you.
2. You are still trying to win the approval of the pope, even for small-scale issues: wardrobe, profession, repair in the house, etc.
3. You often feel an incomprehensible dislike for the mother, as if she were to blame for all your troubles.
4. You sometimes dream( though, maybe, and frightened of these fantasies): how it would be good to live with your father if your mother disappeared.
5. When parents quarrel, you unconditionally accept the side of the pope, without even trying to understand the causes of the conflict.
6. When making decisions, you often think: "What would my dad say about this?".

7. You, in spite of your unmarried age, still do not have a personal life, because it seems to you that there is something wrong with each of the men you know, they all lack something.

   And even if there are no visible shortcomings in this young man, you will still try to find them to throw it.

8. Most of the men with whom you have tried to engage have had the features of your father's appearance or character.
9. You choose the partners of older men and try to keep them close to you, even if they do not treat you well.
10. You rarely feel happy, suffer from inferiority complexes, from lack of love and attention.

If you find more than three signs, then most likely you have become a victim of this common complex.

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How to get rid of the Electra complex: 5 ways to

If you began to suspect that in your attachment to the father there is something unhealthy, then for sure you can get rid of the Electra complex and yourself.

Here are the 5 easiest ways to do this:

1. If your father has died or left you with his mother, then find the strength to forgive him for it and say goodbye forever to him.

   Remember about Dad, but remember about it every second - no.

2. Do not create an idol from your parent.

   Of course, you should love it, but also - see all its shortcomings.

3. Develop your own femininity and sexuality, take care of yourself.

   All this will help attract the attention of men and break the connection with the father.

4. Stop depending on the opinion and approval of others, inclusive with your dad.

   Develop character traits that are inherent in strong independent personalities.

5. Love a good man and create your own family with him.

   Home chores, caring for babies will forever cure you of obsessive attachment to the pope.

If Electra complex has completely captured you, then do not try to get rid of it yourself.

In this case, psychological help will be very welcome.