How to become kinder in our difficult world?

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So, someone is interested in how to make a lot of money, someone is looking for recipes for beauty and success, someone needs to build a dizzying career or acquire own business, but few people are trying to find ways to how to become kinder .

But, in my opinion, kindness is needed by our world, as never before.

This is something that does not go out of fashion and what the people around you appreciate very much, what you appreciate in yourself, even if you do not admit it.

I'm not saying that everyone should turn into Mother Teresa and forget about material goods, but also become an insensitive brutal iron, too, not worth it.

Why should you strive to become kinder?

On one of the forums, I once saw the topic "Why should I become kinder, if I feel comfortable being evil?".

Discussion took pages 10.

Some put forward arguments for the topikastera.

Like, here I am also not a good slobbery and nothing, successfully moving to myself on the career ladder.

Yes, this kindness only ruins, you start to wonder what is good and what is bad and has already missed a profitable contract.

In short, it's all bullshit!

Being evil and unprincipled is cool.

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Their opponents asked:

"Well, how can it be, we are people. We must bring good to this world. You can not measure everything with money. If we are not kind to each other, then we will turn into real animals. And in general, everyone who is wicked and cruel will burn in hell. "

I honestly wanted very much to interfere in the discussion and advise accomplices of evil to still look for prescriptions, how to become kinder , because there are at least 5 reasons for this:

1. Kind people are loved by others, so they are not threatened by loneliness.
2. Kind people very seldom suffer from depressions and nervous breakdowns, and failures which they suffer are much easier to bear.

3. Kind people get what they want in a shorter time than the evil ones, and with less effort.

   The universe as though wants to reward them for a positive attitude and for the fact that they bring good into this world.

4. Good people do not suffer from low or high self-esteem, because they do not need to engage in self-interest, and they are easy to deal with complexes, because they are surrounded by loving people.

5. Even in fairy tales, good always wins evil.

   You do not want to be in the role of defeated Koshchei Immortal or Baba Yaga?

What should I get rid of for those who want to become kinder?

Of course, it is much easier for those who have already been born a kind and sympathetic person.

They do not need to strain.

To become as positive and kind as the one who got these qualities from birth is difficult, but to become a little better, so that you can not be hated all around, you can, if you make a little effort.

Before moving to a new level, you need to get rid of unnecessary ballast, that is, from the qualities that are characteristic of evil people and are not good:

1. Envy.

   No need to envy those who have more than you, it is better to spend this energy on reaching the level of successful people.

2. Ungratefulness.

   I'm talking now about ingratitude to parents:

   "Why I was not born in a family of oligarchs? !", and - my second half: "And what, I'm going to walk in an old mink coat for the third year? I could not make a new one with money, a bastard! ", And - to friends:" Again this fool calls to complain about another unsuccessful novel, "and - to the whole world:" I want to be the sea lord! ".

   Learn to be grateful for what you have, but strive for more. Work on yourself, and do not constantly demand something from others!

3. Sneering:

   "Hooray! This goat from the bookkeeping department was taken to the purse. So it is necessary to her, otherwise her eyes are blistered in her new sheepskin coat! ".

4. Passion for gossip.

   If you like to discuss others( even without malicious intent), then you will not be taken to the club of good people.

5. Conflict resolution.

   Is it worth someone accidentally step on your foot in a minibus, and you immediately rush at him with his fists?

   Well, why waste your energy? Even if you get caught by a boor who did not apologize, do not teach him good manners.

   Just ignore the unfortunate person.

6. Cruelties.

   Well, here, in my opinion, in general comments are not needed.

   People who offend other people or animals, making mucks intentionally, just sick!

7. Greed.

   Of course, squandering money to the right and left is not necessary, but if you are sorry 10-20 hryvnia for homeless animals or sick children, then you have very strange notions of kindness.

How to become kinder - adhere to these rules

If you cease to be jealous of your successful competitors, run away from gossips like the plague, every day you wake up with gratitude, sympathize, and not gloat when someone has trouble, do charity, and addictionsyou have never had any cruelty at all, then it's time to move to a new level.

Here are some simple rules that you should follow if you want to become kinder:

1. Learn to make well-deserved compliments.

   Did your colleague come to work in a beautiful dress? So tell her about it.

   Is there a new haircut for the neighbor? Do not keep silent about this fact.

2. Do good deeds, not demanding anything in return.

   Try to fulfill the requests of others if you are able to do it, but do not let yourself sit on your neck, otherwise you will not become a good-natured person, but a rag.

3. Respect someone else's opinion.

   Even if you strongly disagree with the opinion of your interlocutor, you do not have to rush to the embrasure to convince him of the opposite.

   If it is not a question of principle, then simply end the conversation tactfully and find a more interesting interlocutor for yourself.

4. Be attentive to innocuous human oddities.

   Your neighbor dyed her hair green, and her work colleague plays in the modern amateur theater, where they give out to the court people's nightmarish incomprehensible performances?

   Stop being indignant about this, because it does not hurt you in any way.

   Human strengths: how to use them?

5. Learn to enjoy life.

   Bad weather, a small salary, tights torn on the way to work, sour soup, runny nose - these are all frivolous reasons to walk gloomy, whine and complain to everyone around.

   Smile and do not worry about minor problems.

Do good, choose good, follow the example of kind people,

the story of which will go in the following video:

It's not so difficult to become kinder , especially if you decide to break with the world of evil and darkness forever.

Move quickly to the bright side.