How to develop self-confidence: 10 tips

In my opinion, the basic qualities that prevent each person from finding what they want are self-doubt and low self-esteem.

"Lucky", whom I sincerely sympathize with, usually have one and the other.

But before the time to despair is not necessary.

You can still be saved!"Diary of Success" will turn even a notorious, afraid of the rabbit's own shadow, into a confident and ready for everything for the sake of achieving the goal of the tiger.

With due diligence on your part, of course.

I did not accidentally start talking about complexes, indecisiveness and other shortcomings of human nature, because today I want to teach you, how to gain self-confidence.

This will greatly facilitate your life, help achieve what you want both in your personal life and in your career.

Is it necessary to care about how to develop self-confidence?

Actually, the answer to this question is unequivocal: "Yes! Necessary!".

I'm touched by people who seriously believe that you can live a lifetime with a sort of scarlet flower, whose problems someone else will solve.

Modern life is a struggle for survival, where only strong and confident can win.

Units of small plants manage to get into greenhouse conditions and calmly grow on fertile soil under the canopy of powerful oak.

Others have to either grow their teeth or. .. die.

And so that you do not think that I'm trying to intimidate you, I'll tell you a sad story with the happy end of my mom's friend.

They are friends from the institute and, according to my mother, Anya has always been a modest shy girl with a complaisant character, and her outward attractiveness made her a tasty morsel for the representatives of the opposite sex.

Even at the institute she married a man with power 10 years older than himself.

The need to take care of the how to develop the self-confidence of , and completely disappeared.

Anya lived in full material prosperity, brought up the baby.

Everything changed when a woman who had not worked anywhere for a day, and did not live a normal life at all, left her husband.

And then there's the 90s, in which we did not have to live, but survive.

And in the hands of Ani's son and old parents, also accustomed to good being behind the back of an influential son-in-law.

I remember how Aunt Anya was crying in our kitchen, cursing her life.

And then she managed to pull herself together.

After selling some jewelry, she finished accounting courses, got a job, spun an affair with one of the company's partners, and two years later married him.

But Aunt Anya did not want to repeat the mistakes of her youth, so she did not intend to fall into dependence on men and again settle in a house test, turning into an insecure and clogged cage.

10 tips to help you gain self-confidence

These recommendations are useful not only for those who want to gain confidence, but also for people who are striving for success.

Why are there - all normal people they are useful.🙂

1. Put yourself in order.

   It's hard to exude confidence if you are a shapeless donut that seldom bathes, walks in a grandmother's dress and tries to avoid beauty salons for three quarters.

   Begin to change first from the outside.

2. Fall in Love.

   A well-organized personal life makes a person more confident.

   They love me! I'm waiting at home!

   I'm not hopeless, since someone needs it!

3. Do not be jealous.

   A person often overcame complexes and uncertainty as a scab, due to the fact that he begins to envy more fortunate colleagues, friends, relatives.

   The promotion was received not by you, but by another employee, because he turned out to be a more worthy challenger.

   You do not need to get angry and spit with poison, but work harder.

   A nice guy chose not you, but your girlfriend, not because you are worse, but because love does not lend itself to logical explanation.

4. Think positively.

   Set yourself up for success, not for losing.

5. Improve your knowledge and skills.

   The praise of superiors and material bonuses give confidence.

6. Cultivate.

   Learn foreign languages, visit theaters and museums, read books.

7. Do not give up after the first failure.

   Understand, life can not consist of only victories.

   It happens only in fairy tales.

   In real life, people constantly have to overcome obstacles, sometimes these barriers are too high for them.

8. Improve posture, change gait.

   Do not go hunched and looking at your feet - from the outside it looks terrible.

9. Smile more often, even if you want to cry!

10. Do not be afraid!

    I'm not just talking about getting rid of phobias.

    Looking at some people, it seems that they are afraid of life. Do not be like them.

3 exercises, without which it is difficult to develop self-confidence

Exercises are extremely simple and, in order to perform them, it does not take any special effort or a lot of time:

1. Parallel reality.

   The name is conditional.

   The essence of this exercise is to daily imagine for 15-30 minutes different situations in which you show miracles of self-confidence.

   Fantasy, gentlemen, fantasize!

   You have to believe in your fantasies, so take care of the details: what you are wearing, what the room looks like, where you came from, what kind of people surround you, what extraneous sounds or smells are in your imagination, etc.

2. Full relaxation.

   Actually, this exercise helps not only to develop self-confidence, but also to combat stress, overwork, mess in the head, nervousness, etc.

   In addition, as for me, this is a very enjoyable exercise.

   Do it better at home, but if you have a secluded corner in your office where you can take a horizontal position, then relax yourself and there at lunch time.

   Lie down on your back, close your eyes, turn off the phones and move to the place where you feel as safe and sound as possible for 15 minutes: an uninhabited island, an oasis in the desert, a forest in the village of my grandmother, a picturesque waterfall, etc.

   I also recommend that you watch a video with useful tips on how

   can gain self-confidence.

   Go!

3. The way out to people.

   This exercise will already have to work.

   Once a few days or at least once a week( depending on how quickly you need results) train your confidence.

   Attend alone cinema, theater, exhibition, restaurant, go to understand about the tariffs in the Housing office or in some community service, invite a guy who you like on a date, go for an interview, even if this work is not necessary to you,e.

You can gain the confidence of and achieve what you want from life.