The article tells how to hold back tears depending on the situation.
Contents
- How to hold back tears when you want to cry from insult when talking?
- How to restrain the tears from pain?
- How to learn to control tears and emotions?
- Video: How to learn to restrain tears and is it worth it?- Everything will be good. Issue 894 from 11.10.16
There are situations when pain and resentment cause a desire to cry, however, there are also situations when these tears will be inappropriate. How to make it so that no one saw our tears?
How to hold back tears when you want to cry from hurt, when talking?
Sometimes to restrain the tears is very difficult, and there are even such situations when it seems that it is simply impossible. In this case, psychologists have several ways, using which you can take the situation under control.
Psychologists recommend:
- Switch attention
For this you can use some questions that will definitely make you distract from crying. These are questions like "is my plate off?", Or "is my apartment closed?".
You can recall the multiplication table, the text of your favorite song or the password from something important for you.
You can also switch your attention in another way, turning your eyes to an object. It is desirable that the object of your attention had many small details that should be carefully considered, counted, etc.
- Includes the imagination
For this you can imagine the person who offended you in a bizarre way. The most important thing here is not to laugh, but then you can hurt yourself and the already tense situation even more.
- Pinch yourself or bite the lip
You can also help to relieve emotions with physical sensations, on which you are sure to concentrate, for example, while pinching yourself behind your wrist.
- Concentrate on breathing, or completely delay it
For this, you need to slowly and deeply inhale with your nose and exhale the air with your mouth, concentrating on the process itself. Also, during an emergency situation, the human body itself is able to get rid of minor matters, so you can just hold your breath.
- Drink water
If possible, drink water, concentrating on the process itself. Drink slowly, with small sips.
- Make sharp movements
Sharp movements always help to relieve tension, so you can try to stand up sharply, sit up sharply, open the window, push the chair, etc. If there is no way to make sharp movements, then you can try just to sharply change position, straighten shoulders, raise your head, while concentrating on your breathing.
- Avoid direct views of third parties
Anyone, even a small look of sympathy in your direction can cause a rapid flow of tears, so you should avoid such views in every possible way. There is no need to look at anyone, it is better to look out the window, at the picture, etc.
- To use the pen or phone
If the situation and conditions allow, then in a critical situation, you can start writing something nice on a piece of paper. Thus, there will be an opportunity to distract from a stressful situation.
You can also use, for example, a mobile phone or tablet. If tears begin to approach, then you can simply distract and look into the Internet.
- Leave the room during the heat of the passions
If the situation has heated up to the limit, then, avoiding tears, you should leave as soon as possible from the room where you were caught by an unpleasant situation. Such a decision will help to avoid tears, let go of the situation, calm down.
After the voltage has receded, you can try to continue the conversation.
After the situation, which could cause you to cry, will be left behind, you should proceed as follows:
- With cool water, get wet face, neck, hands to the elbow. You can use an ice cube by attaching it to the wrist
- Look in the mirror and smile, even when you do not feel like it. Tell yourself that everything is good
- Think about something pleasant, if you want, you can read the
- prayer. Drink sweet tea
- . Speak out, talk about the exciting question to someone close who can support you.
How to restrain the tears from pain?
There are also some ways that help to avoid tears, not only from grievances, but also from pain. To do this, you must:
- Keep your eyes open as wide as possible, and you should try not to blink
- You need to raise your eyebrows and stay in that position until the pain begins to subside
- You need to look up, and do not lift your head. In this state, stay until the pain begins to recede.
- . It is necessary to relax all the facial muscles and open wide-wide a few times, then close the mouth.
. In order not to cry from pain, you can use some of the tips from the previous section.
How to learn to control tears and emotions?
In order to learn how to contain your tears, control your emotions, you should increase your self-esteem.
Increase self-confidence and in their abilities can be daily workouts. For this, standing in front of the mirror, you should tell yourself that nothing and nobody threatens you, that you will pass through all adversity, that you are strong, intelligent, confident.
In addition, it is worthwhile to take care of in advance what thoughts will distract you in a stressful situation from the situation itself, when you are overwhelmed with emotions or you are just about to cry.
Whatever situations arise in everyday life, one should remember that tears are not always a manifestation of weakness. Sometimes tears are simply necessary to relieve tension during emotional discharge - this is just the body's response to stress.