10 it is impossible or 10 interdictions for parents in education of children. What can not you do and tell your parents about the children?

An article about banned words and actions that should not be done in the presence of children. Subtlety of raising children.

Many pregnant women are eagerly awaiting the birth of their little crumbs. They read magazines about the health and upbringing of kids, and try to make their own plan for the development of the child. True, sometimes it is difficult to adhere to a certain plan, since the baby does not always agree with the opinion of the parents.

Why can not children sleep with their parents?

There are a lot of disagreements about sleeping with mom and baby. There are many supporters and opponents of sleep of parents with children. Psychologists recommend spending more time with infants, as tactile contact with the body of the mother is associated with the baby with security and safety. In addition, the child sleeps better, rarely wakes up.

But there are psychologists who believe that joint sleep is harmful and it can cause a break in the relationship between parents.

Reasons for not sleeping with a child:

• Mom takes sedatives or antidepressants
• You can not put a child between mom and dad
• Mom in a dream can "sleep" a crumb, although women after the birth of a child sleep very sensitively. Therefore, lying on the child in a dream is almost impossible
• The baby should be formed as a person, and a joint dream provokes the emergence of "over attachment".The kid can not stay without a mom for a long time, feels abandoned, he has hysterics
• It is difficult for breastfeeding moms to constantly put the baby to sleep in her crib. Indeed, in the process of feeding, mother can fall asleep herself. It is much easier when breastfeeding to lay the crumb next to you

By 2-3 years it is necessary to move the child to sleep in his bed. Here are some rules for preparing a child for an independent sleep.

• First remove the cushion from the crib and put it back to back with the parent bed
• After that, ask the crumb to lie down on its territory
• At night, the child can return to the parent box, the mother should bring it back to her bed
• . When the child gets used,place, and the cot is gradually removed from the parent's bed
• A little later, it is worth moving the baby to another room

Who should not be godparents?

Baptism is a mysterious rite. They say that after the procedure, children begin to sleep better, they become calmer. This is due to the fact that God now protects the child. Godparents are people who are responsible for the baby, if something happens to his parents. They are spiritual guides and advisors.

It is forbidden to invite godparents:

• People who are in intimate relations, are married or intend to marry
• Mentally ill people
• Unbelievers, unbaptized and people who believe in another religion
• People who serve churches( monks)
• Children under the age of 15years

Still there is an opinion that it is not necessary to take the godmother an unmarried woman or a pregnant woman. But these are folk superstitions, which have nothing to do with the truth.

What can not be told to parents with children?

There are many prohibitions and taboos about what can be said in the presence of a toddler. Children like sponges, absorb all the information and "give" it out after a certain time. So that you do not have to blush before acquaintances, relatives and neighbors, control what you are talking about in the presence of a crumb.

When you are young, you can not:

• Discuss and criticize the educators of
• "To water the dirt" of an ex-husband. Your relationship can be terrible, but it's still a father and he has to communicate with a crumb.
• Do not criticize your mother-in-law. This woman is almost alien to you, but your grandmother is a grandmother.
• Do not talk badly about neighbors and acquaintances. The child absorbs all this and can then badly talk about those people who you criticized, in the presence of their children. You will find yourself in an embarrassing situation and risk ruining your relations with your neighbors.
• Discuss your intimate life in the presence of children. Kids are too early to delve into the features of communication between a man and a woman. But do not talk about sex, that it is something "nasty" or opposite. A child in adolescence may have difficulty communicating with the opposite sex.
• Do not discuss with the child the methods of his upbringing, especially if you and your husband have different positions. The child will simply start to manipulate the parents.
• Do not talk about the end of the world or any cataclysms. Children are very sensitive and can seriously become agitated.

Note, it's not just possible to talk about friends, parents, classmates and neighbors, but you need to. Thus, you instill crumb respect for your friends and relatives.

What can not you say to your parents?

Parents are the most important people for a child, so a random word can affect a child's psyche. Therefore, treat the child with patience and try not to scream at him.

Words that can not be said to the toddler:

• "I do not love you" .Do not hurt the child, he will feel abandoned and no one needs.
• "I'll take you to the orphanage" .You risk creating a phobia. The child will be afraid to stay in the dark or go far away from you for a walk.
• "You're Bad" .The kid is very hypocritical with respect to the words of his parents, so he can behave even worse and fully correspond to the words of his parents.
• "Do not go there," "do not do that." Many parents are trying to protect their crumbs from trouble, to prevent a fall or failure. But you risk raising an insecure person who thinks he can not do anything. In every way, support the crumb and stimulate its beginnings.
• "Why are not you like that?" .Parents like to compare their child with classmates, neighbors or brothers. Usually like to reproach a child, because he is something worse. He does not know how to count, naughty, but his brother has always been obedient and well studied. Such words provoke an unhealthy spirit of rivalry.

You can not do it to your parents?

Many parents in words are very smart, they tell a lot to the child, they teach him. But as practice shows, many moms and dads do not always behave appropriately in the presence of crumbs.

When a child is prohibited:

• Drink, smoke and swear obscenities. Children absorb everything and can repeat the behavior of their parents in their adult life.
• Quarrel with a partner. Children observe quarrels, it can negatively affect the psyche. Often, a boy who watches fights and quarrels between his parents beat his wife after marriage. He considers this behavior to be the norm.
• Ask for details about his personal life. A child of 13-15 years has the right to some kind of communication with peers. Do not limit his communication.

Why parents should not offend their parents?

This is a separate topic, as children see how parents communicate with their moms and dads. You lay a child a certain pattern of behavior. Here's what you should not do:

• Quarrel and scream at your parents
• Raise your hand
• Insult

Thus, you show your disrespect for the grandparents of the child. He can do the same with you in the future.

Why can not children be named after their parents?

When parents choose a name for an unborn baby, a lot of controversy arises between them. Women leaf through a lot of literature and read about the meaning of a particular name. There is an opinion that children can not be called parents' names and that's why:

• A child can repeat the fate of his father( mother)
• It is believed that people with the same names have one guardian angel. Accordingly, he can not save the child from adversity, since it is mainly to help the elder.
• It is believed that God can take to himself someone from the family with the same name.

Although in fact it's just a prejudice. But really, the same names can cause inconvenience. It is not clear who they call to the phone, who received the letter, and whom they call for dinner.

Why can not parents cut their children?

Many people heard the belief that parents should not cut their children. This belief arose a very long time ago. It used to be that hair is the connecting link between the skies and the body, so cutting your hair, you risk destroying this connection. In antiquity, it was not allowed to cut babies for up to a year. The fact is that at that time only a few crumbs survived to a year, and it was believed that the haircut is a rite of dedication of the child to the family.

The reasons why you can not trim your children:

• It is believed that if the mother cuts her daughter, she takes her happiness
• The father also can not cut his son, he cuts off a piece of his biofield
• You can not cut yourself too, you wedge in your own biofield
• It is necessary to go to the hairdresser's shop

Many believe that such signs were invented by hairdressers, so that they had more customers.

Movies, cartoons and serials that children can not watch with their parents

There are many films that teenagers really want to see. Usually these are films with sexual scenes or scenes of violence. It is better to look these tapes away from their parents. Here is a list of tapes worth seeing without Mom and Dad:

• "Antichrist". This movie is full of scenes of a sexual nature. In addition, the film has more naked people than dressed.
• "Brokeback Mountain". Film about two homosexuals. In our society, people after 30 years with aggression and disdain for homosexuals, so you run the risk of quarreling with your parents because of "wrong" views on life.
• "Candy". A film about a juvenile nymphet who gets acquainted with a pedophile through a dating site, meets with him and castrates. The film has a lot of blood and obscene vocabulary.
• «With wide eyes closed». There are many erotic scenes in the film. In addition, the film tells about swingers, prostitutes and a secret club, whose members often arrange orgies.

Parents often watch movies with their young children, unaware that the contents of the film can affect the psyche of the child.

Cartoons that should not be shown to children:

• "South Park". The whole cartoon is stuffed with foul language
• "Futurama". The series has a lot of foul language and scenes of erotic content of
• "Masha and the Bear". At first glance, a cute cartoon about a girl. But psychologists have established that Masha's behavior is inadequate when watching such cartoons, children become stubborn, hysterical and uncontrollable.
• «Happy flattering friends». Cartoon about how the forest dwellers get into trouble. In the cartoon a lot of blood and violence.

As you can see, raising children is not easy. And what was previously considered the norm, now is not applicable. If there are difficulties in raising children, talk with a psychologist.

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