Want a second child? The article will help you to choose the best time for his birth.
Contents
- When is it better to have a second child?
- Do I have to give birth to the 35th child?
- Do I have a second child at 40 and 45?
- How many years can I have a second child?
- How much after the first can you give birth to a second child?
- What is the best difference between children?
- When can I give birth to a second child after cesarean?
- How easy is it to have a second child?
- VIDEO: I want a second child - Doctor Komarovsky
- When and how best to give birth to a second child: advice and feedback
- VIDEO: When to give birth to the SECOND CHILD?The ideal difference between children
A child is happiness for the family, and two children are a double happiness. And many parents, in the first place, mothers think about when it is better to have a second child. After all, the days passed when the second and third child appeared, as they say, as God will give.
When is it better to have a second child?
In our time, parents have the opportunity to plan the appearance of a second child. In doing so, they take into account several factors:
- health
- material
- psychological
The most important, of course, is the health factor. If a woman gave birth to the first child normally, during her pregnancy and childbirth there were no problems, the child was born healthy, then, possibly taking into account other factors, she will want to become a mother again, and her family will support her in this. Of course, if the first pregnancy was complicated, ended with either premature birth and the birth of a premature baby, a child with some deviations, or a caesarean section, or there was a strong toxicosis and various threats, the woman would think about whether she could give birth to a second healthychild without threat to their health.
- The material factor is also very important. After all, most of the families do not have the opportunity to freely dispose of the money, and carefully plans every penny of the
- expenses. Therefore, such families should count on whether they will be able to raise their child adequately, whether they will have the opportunity to buy not only the most necessary things in their childhood, but also to indulgesometimes, and later - give him a decent education
- Although, as the folk wisdom says, if God gives a child, he gives both the strength and the means to grow it
- As for the material factor, it is also important hereS THE so-called housing problem. The family, ideally, should have an apartment or a house, and each member of the family has its own space in it.
- The same applies to children. After all, many problems and questions often arise because in some houses "one on one" live, and a person has nowhere to retire to stay himself
- The psychological factor also can not be ignored when planning a second child. What kind of relationship in the family as a whole, between mother and father, between parents and first-born, and perhaps this is the second marriage, and the first child of a woman from another man
- All this is very important, because the child should be desired and bring happiness. Well, if the second child is only needed to, as some women think, to bridge the disintegrating relationship between mother and father, then it is worth considering the pros and cons of the
. IMPORTANT: Whether the child ties the relationship, it is unknown, but whether the new personality will feelyourself comfortable in conditions of dislike and, worse, a quarrel between parents?
In a word, there are many questions, but among them there are also such, very specific ones.
Do I have to give birth to the 35th child?
- It used to be that the best age for a woman to give birth is between the ages of twenty and thirty. But now the living conditions have improved, the medicine is more developed, the social factor
has changed. So why not plan the birth of a child for 35 years? !
- The woman is still young, strong, but she is already socially stable, has achieved something in life, and she and her husband have the financial means to give birth and raise a second child.
- . There is already experience in the care and upbringing of the child, perhaps he has grown enough alreadyand asks my mother for a brother or sister
In developed countries of the West, as is known, women at 35 years old and even later give birth to only the first child. This is for them a standard practice, not to mention the second baby.
So, if health allows, there is a desire of the family, there is an opportunity to "put the child to their feet", forward, make our family happy and improve the demographic situation in the country!
Do I have a second child at 40 and 45?
And here such question how to give birth to the second child in 40 years, and the more so, in 45, should be carefully thought over.
- The fact is that the body of a woman is already physiologically not the same as he was at the time when she was 20 - 35 years old. Hormonal processes slow down, and in this connection, the entire body becomes more vulnerable
- At the age of 40 to 45, a woman can have a risk of having a child with various developmental abnormalities, and she herself can be given birth difficultly
- There are lots of life examples where womenand at 40, and at 45, and even older gave birth to beautiful healthy coveted children. Everything depends on the woman's health, on various family and household circumstances, on her husband's desires, attitudes, etc.
IMPORTANT: Age of 40 - 45 years is not a hindrance for second births, the more, they say, the second birth is always easier than the first
. The argument for this issue is that a woman at that age planning a second child is well aware of whatshe goes, realizes her capabilities and takes responsibility responsibly.
And this is very important and can very well become a decisive factor. Moreover, we will repeat, the possibilities of medicine to follow the intrauterine development of the baby and the state of the mother are enormous, and it is always possible to correct something that is not right.
How many years can I have a second child?
- The answer to this question can be given on the basis of the individual characteristics of each particular woman
- However, it should be remembered that after 40 years the premenopause period comes, that is, the egg matures less actively, the period of ovulation is not predicted as easily as at a young age, andchances to become pregnant remain less
- Pregnancy may occur, but, according to recent studies and medical observations, the chance that a child may be with deviations, that the pregnancy will be successfully terminated, is less than
In addition, then the same observations, a child from a late mother can have a first-degree diabetes since childhood. Therefore, the best age for the birth of the second child will be a period of 20 to 40 years.
How much after the first can you give birth to a second child?
According to the World Health Organization( WHO), it is believed that the period when the woman's body was fully restored after the first birth, will be a period of 2 - 2, 5 years.
What is the best difference between children?
- Everything again depends on the family, the relationships in it, on the opportunities and individuality of the first child. For some families it is better when the age difference between children is negligible
- Then they will grow up friends, they can play together and be members of the same company. Other families expect that the age between children can be 5 - 6 years old.
- Then mother, staying home in a decree, can follow both the new baby and the child who went to school. But this is in theory. In practice, everything may not be so perfect
IMPORTANT: Children with a difference of 2, 5 - 3 years can have different characters, and not the fact that they will not just not play together, but will compete, quarrel and be jealous of each other to their parents. So it is in the second case. Again, a born baby and a junior schoolchild need increased attention of parents, therefore, it is necessary to solve everything individually
When can I give birth to a second child after cesarean?
If the first child in a woman was born as a result of cesarean section, then for the health of the mother and for the second pregnancy to proceed normally, it is necessary to take into account the factor of the suture on the uterus.
He should not just heal, but also enough to heal so that the walls of the uterus do not deplete, and, as a result, no undesirable consequences of the type of bleeding.
IMPORTANT: The period of sufficient scarring of the uterus - at least 3 years
How easy is it to have a second child?
All women giving birth notice that the second child is born much easier than the first, although if the time gap between births was not very significant.
There are no general recommendations for giving birth easily and smoothly. But still, a woman who decides for the second child should follow the rules of a healthy lifestyle, namely:
- to observe the mode of work and rest, it is enough to rest
- to go on walks in any weather.
- to exercise and breathing exercises
- not to be nervous, to be calmand confident
- in addition to take vitamins and other drugs prescribed by a gynecologist
- follow other recommendations of your doctor
- to be in a normal psychological setting, which means supporther husband, relatives and other
VIDEO: wants a second child - Dr. Komarovsky
When and how best to give birth to the second child: advice and feedback
This question is discussed in various forums. Many women tell their stories or stories of their friends. Everyone agrees in one thing, whatever difficulties arise, whether psychological, age or plan, the birth of a second child needs the desire of a woman, a family and her confidence that everything will be fine.