Somewhere I read the phrase that men do not know how to be emotionally attached to a woman, so sometimes they jump so easily to a young student from their wife, who has lived for several decades.
The wife remains with a broken heart, a bunch of diseases acquired on the nerves, and the question, , how to forget the former , to at least a little, but move on.
I'm glad you at once: you can forget the former if you try a little.
In this you today will convince the advice of psychologists and the history of my teacher.
"I'll never think how to forget my ex-husband. .."
"Well, yes, yes."
This is how I answered one of my friends, who, wondering what topic I'm working on, angrily exclaimed "I'll never think how to forget my ex-husband.
Why get married at all, if you're going to get divorced and forget your loved one? ! "
I'm sure most divorced women once thought the same way.
No girl, twisting in front of a mirror in a white dress on the happiest day of her life, is not tuned to a divorce( well, or almost none 🙂).
Everyone dreams that they will live a long and happy life with their loved one.
Alas, realize the dream is not for everyone.
Some people have enough years to turn the sun into a nasty grymzu, and the bunny is a worthless fool.
Of course, there are couples who are bred quite civilized without mutual insults and sawing a bed, but in any case divorce is not an easy thing, which leaves its imprint on both.
Psychologists say that it is more difficult for women to forget their ex-husband than for a man who is a wife, especially if the spouse was the initiator of the break, especially if your feelings toward him have not died out and you continue to love him.
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And yet you need to try to become happy again in other ways.
And to realize this plan, you must always forget your ex-husband.
Why is it so hard to forget the former?
Naturally, when a person with whom you have lived for so many years leaves your life, it is very difficult to put up with his loss.
At first it seems that you will suffer on it always, that it will take decades before you stop asking "How can I forget the former?"
And yet time turns out to be a good doctor, and after a few months you find that the wound begins to heal andyou do not feel so painful to remember this man.
And only the most stubborn cling to the ex-husband, like a broken lifeline that pulls them to the bottom, and purposefully combs and combs the wound, preventing it from healing.
Here are some of the most common reasons that do not allow you to forget your ex-husband:
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You do not want it yourself.
You continue to cling to your past life, still imagining yourself a husband's wife, although your spouse has long lived his life.
You subconsciously do not want to forget your ex-husband.
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You have too much free time.
Of course, suffering for a while after the divorce is a holy thing.
But the main thing is that the tear-melodramatic period does not last for months.
Cry to a loved one in a vest and - forward to conquering new peaks.
Focus on the career, on children, sign up for the gym, find a hobby, learn something new - good, there are plenty of courses today.
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You do not believe in yourself.
You are convinced that with the departure of the spouse, the chance of a happy family life is lost, that you, being a weak creature, simply can not cope with the torrent of suffering, that you simply can not forget your ex-husband.
5 tips on how to forget the former
The problems of women's rehabilitation after the divorce are devoted to enough materials.
If you do not know how to forget your ex-husband yourself, then no one disturbs you to make an appointment with a psychologist or attend several trainings.
And here for those who decided without help to cope with the pain and start moving on, forgetting my ex-husband, I will give some advice based on the recommendations of well-known psychologists:
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Do not always remind yourself of it.
If you caught yourself thinking about your ex-husband, distract yourself with something, switch to something else.
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Remove from the house everything that reminds you of it.
If necessary - make repairs and change completely the situation.
These investments are sure to be paid off by peace of mind.
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Take the trip.
I understand, advice is not for everyone, but try to find money for the trip.
The abundance of new experiences will help you quickly forget your ex-husband.
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Put your appearance in order.
Force yourself to be beautiful and dress beautifully daily, even if you are at home alone.
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Spend more time with children if you have one.
If not, then start a pet, it's better - a dog, because it requires serious care and just loves the company of the owners.
A new man will help you forget the former
Some divorced women somehow put a cross on their personal lives.
That's stupid!
New love kills the old.
The surest way to forget an ex-husband is to start a romantic relationship with another man.
Of course, middle-aged women in our country can not easily find their soul mate, but it's quite realistic:
- looking at lonely colleagues;
- registering on the Internet on the dating site;
- spending as much time as possible among people: in the theater, at exhibitions, etc.
How to fall in love with anyone?
Just, please: do not compare your current man to the former, otherwise you will never be able to forget your old husband and build a new relationship.
"I can forget my ex-husband no matter what!"
The loss of the second half( it is not so important that you are separated) - it is always painful and unpleasant.
And if you are not just quietly and peacefully divorced from your husband, but also became a laughingstock in the eyes of the staff of a large university and forced to watch daily your spouse and a young graduate student, to which he escaped, it is doubly difficult.
This is the story that happened with one of the teachers at the university, in which I studied.
Spouse Natalia Nikolaevna twisted the affair with her student, helped her first to get a job in graduate school, and then - and to work in the university, where he taught and his wife.
Both the novel itself and the divorce of two teachers occurred in front of the whole collective.
The graduate student turned out to be a brazen girl who told everyone about how Sashenka was miserable with this old hag and how happy he is now.
The former husband agreed.
Natalia Nikolaevna had two options: to quit and start everything in a new place away from the traitor and his new passion or, clenching his teeth, take it all proudly and try to quickly forget her ex-husband.
She chose the second option.
Day after day, this strong woman came to work, looking great at the same time.
She passionately gave herself to the work and we, students, simply adored her.
The teacher lived the fullest possible life, not building herself a victim and a martyr who climbs every day on the scaffold.
She pretended that she did not pay the slightest attention to the gossip and gossip behind her, that she did not care about the betrayer-hubby, and his young chicken.
And she was able to convince not only everyone around, but herself, that she managed to forget her ex-husband.
Moreover, after the release, I found out that a new teacher had arrived at the chair and had achieved the disposition of Natalia Nikolaevna.
Not so long ago they were married.
And her ex-husband, by the way, was thrown by his beautiful post-graduate student - after she defended her Ph. D. thesis, aging and balding, he simply did not need it.
Also you will be interested in the following video with several tips,
how to forget and let go of your ex:
You see, to figure out how to forget the ex-husband of is not so difficult.
Take an example from Natalia Nikolaevna and you will also find your happiness.