In the practical life of every man comes a period when life becomes uninteresting, boring, apathy begins. In psychology, this emotional state is called a middle age crisis.
- When
- Comes How long does
- How
- manifests What to do
A man asks questions about his personal and professional achievements. And in many cases, people are not satisfied with the answers, as he realizes that he has not achieved the heights he dreamed of. However, the crisis of middle years can be overcome and again return to a full-fledged life filled with bright colors.
When the
comes The crisis of middle age begins closer to 40 years, when the conditional half of life is already lived. Every man can get into the "crisis trap", regardless of whether he is a successful person in his prime or a bachelor without a stable income.
How long is the
The duration of the crisis for a strong half of humanity does not have clear boundaries and can change: some suffer 1 year, while others are in a depressed state and 5 years. Support for family and native people, temperament and character of a person, financial stability, professional status and social role all influence the duration and depth of the crisis.
Also the duration of a depressed emotional state depends on how many and how many teenage complexes are left for a man from a school bench.
to contents ^How
manifests The main symptoms of the male crisis are:
- Self-pity. It expresses itself in any manifestations, is experienced both within itself and is carried out on a close environment in frequent complaints and discontent.
- Constant depressive state. Sometimes people around you may not understand the reasons for the onset of depression, especially with an externally successful and impressive man.
- Emptiness. After the onset of the crisis, a person begins to feel emptiness within himself, dissatisfaction, loss and hopelessness. To survive this state alone is very difficult.
- Feeling of "trap", "dead end", when it seems that he was in a desperate situation, and no one can help.
- Unpleasant feeling that life is unfair.
The male crisis in 40 years has some external characteristics, and the native people's reaction to certain life moments is simply discouraged by inconsistency and illogicality. Sometimes you may get the impression that a person is "crazy", but in fact, all the fault is the hormonal changes in the body and the crisis of middle age.
Symptoms:
- Loss of interest in previous hobbies, a hobby, a man is in an apathetic state and does not want to do anything.
- Changing the environment - often the priority in any matter is the opinion of casual acquaintances.
- Refusal to achieve, even when a person is at the peak of fame, wealth and achievements.
- Eccentric, free behavior.
- Irritability, alternating with some sentimentality. A man can shed a tear because of the heartbreaking scene in the film and immediately begin to swear because of some trifle.
- Suspicion about health, especially it can touch the genital area. In 40 years, men begin to feel that they lose their sexual power, and to be sure of the opposite, they can resort to extremes.
- Dissatisfaction with appearance. After 35 years, men become picky to their appearance, begin to look for gray hair, wrinkles, their very annoying appeared tummy.
- Closed. This feature is especially noticeable in previously sociable and cheerful guys who try to hide behind their own silence their problems and experiences.
- Worries about the future. After 40 years, some men begin to talk about death and sum up the results of life.
What to do
What aboutDo you need to take a man to overcome the crisis?
The main thing in overcoming the crisis is to understand that this is a summary of the lived life, an awareness of the committed mistakes and correct actions, the acceptance of the good that is already there, and parting with something that is not necessary. The crisis is not the end of life, but the transition to a new stage.
For men it is recommended:
- Overpower yourself and do not give up. If you want to change the occupation, the situation, make repairs in the house, change the hair style, update the wardrobe. Get rid of bad habits( alcohol, smoking), go in for sports, often rest with your family, travel to nature, abroad. If you are not comfortable with the job, change it.
- Try to realize old dreams. Each person in his youth dreamed of something, for example, to enter the university, to jump with a parachute, to learn a foreign language, etc. However, not everyone at that moment had the opportunity and time to realize their desires.
- During a period of mental weakness, a man does not need to forget about close people, and also that he is the head of the family responsible for the life and fate of his relatives.
- Learn to appreciate life and rejoice at every moment.
What should a wife do during her husband's crisis?
The main thing is patience. It is not necessary to tell her husband that he went to a psychologist, and also do not need to advise him how to act in this or that situation. During the middle-aged crisis, men become vulnerable and the main task of a woman is to help him get out of this state and support him in everything. It is necessary to surround with the love and care of the spouse, to show him his importance and importance in the life of the family. Her husband should feel this in the actions and actions of his wife.
It is necessary to diversify family life - visit cinemas, engage in extreme sports, go to the pool, go to restaurants, take a great interest in dog breeding, etc. The main thing is for a woman to show that life does not end at 40 years, but only begins. It is important to conduct all planned activities on a regular basis, without giving a second to depression. A man will appreciate this and will be grateful.
Do not forget about the intimate life. In this case, the wife is recommended to include in the daily diet products-aphrodisiacs - strawberries, chocolate, ginger, seafood, mushrooms, avocados, eggs. You also need to show initiative and arrange for your loved one romantic evenings, role plays, etc.
The birth of a child. If for some reason the family does not have children, then it's time to think about it. With the advent of the child, the man will forget about his problems and switch all attention to his daughter or son.
What can not a woman do?
- To turn away from the problem, without trying to solve it, or to drown out your experiences with computer games, alcoholic beverages, etc., this will only complicate the situation.
- Cry, especially in the presence of her husband. Loved should show that you are doing well.
- Require changes in behavior or threaten with divorce.
- Reproach himself for his condition.
Proper psychological support from the wife will help a man quickly and practically painlessly survive the crisis of middle age.
If the proposed methods did not help, then a man still needs to turn to a specialist for psychological help.