Learning to forgive. Why is hurt harmful to health?

Resentment hurts, hinders enjoy life. How can we overcome it?

Each of us has faced problems and betrayal. How can we ensure that past conflicts and quarrels do not interfere with enjoying life? How to forgive offenses?

How does resentment affect health? Insults on men and women's health

Feeling of resentment brings with it anger, protest and even a sense of guilt for not being able to stand up for oneself. These emotions destroy the energy field, an invisible protective shell around the body. Because of this, immunity weakens. From negative emotions there is a muscle spasm. Because of it, the heart starts to hurt, blood circulation is disturbed.

How to learn to forgive people?

Answer the question: "How often do I take offense?".
If your answer is "often" - most likely, you are a very emotional person. Remember past grievances. Maybe there is a specific topic, the discussion of which causes you such emotions? If you are at a loss to answer, start a diary. Write down your feelings and situations in which you feel yourself offended. If unpleasant topics are found, decide how to proceed. You can avoid them in conversations. But it is better to prepare an accurate and decisive answer in advance. They will beat you offense. And when you think about the conversation, you will not feel humiliated.

How to forgive a person and get rid of offense?

How do you feel after you are offended? Does the feeling of rightness arise in the soul? A strange joy? Confidence that the offender should earn forgiveness? Then you use your resentment as a way to manipulate a person. After all, most people, thinking that they offended someone, feel guilty. And you want to get rid of him as soon as possible. Therefore, affectionate words are spoken by affectionate words, before him they apologize, gifts are given to him. All this is really a good way to restore relationships. But only in the event that a person does not try to arouse in himself a sense of resentment specifically.

This behavior has many disadvantages. First, the offending person soon ceases to pay attention. Secondly, the person you are trying to manipulate can feel it. And then he will either avoid contact with you, or internally shut yourself off from you. Third, resentment can become your habit. And then you will regularly have to experience all the unpleasant feelings associated with it.

IMPORTANT: Another reason for sensitivity is too high requirements for other people.

How to forgive offense and let go?

If you are constantly expecting other special attitudes towards yourself, you will most likely be disappointed. There is an exit. Learn to love and respect yourself. Then you do not need the approval of others to feel good.

You can be offended by a kind, friendly person. In this case, the cause of resentment is betrayal or causeless insult. What to do then? Some good techniques will come to the rescue.

• "Heart Chakra"
  This chakra is responsible for love. Therefore, when you are offended, this negatively affects it.

IMPORTANT: To cope with the insult, love yourself.

After all, a person who respects and values ​​himself, is invulnerable. A heart chakra will help you do this. To wake her strength, wear clothes or jewelry with stones of green, pink or gold. Go to the cinema and theater, do creativity.

• "Water"
  Take a deep breath and turn your head to the left. Continuing to inhale, return the head to its original position. Breathing deeply, look straight ahead. Present the events you want to forgive. Let the air that you breathe out as water rinses off unpleasant events. Simultaneously, make a sharp exhalation and turn your head to the right. Repeat the exercise three times for each situation.

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The meaning of this technique is as follows. The left side means the past, but the right future. You part with insults and release your future for joy.

You can write this exercise on the recorder, so as not to memorize it by heart.

• "Obidchik = lamppost"
  Do you often see a person who has offended you? Accept the following technique. Its essence is in the maximum reduction of emotions in relation to the offender.
  Imagine a number of common things that do not cause you any feelings. For example: a lamppost, an urn with garbage, a sewage hatch, a bush, etc. Let among these objects there will be an image of the offender. Scroll through this head several times. Try to make the image of the offender cause you to have as much emotion as a lamppost or a bush. At the end of the exercise, say three times: "I refer to( the Name of the offender) as to the subject. I'm indifferent( the name of the offender). "

• "Affirmations"
  You will need an hour of free time. Disconnect the mobile and the computer. Relax. Light a candle with a pleasant scent. And now, remember the strongest grievances and the names of those who offended you. For each situation, repeat the following statement:

I make myself a present - free from the past and gladly accept the present.

My heart is open. Through forgiveness I comprehend love.

Today I listen to my feelings, I'm in harmony with myself. I know that my feelings are my friends.

The past is left behind. The present moment creates my future.

All changes that are coming in my life, only positive. I'm safe.

I forgive( the name of the person) and release it.

I give and release back into the source all the alien energy left in my physical and spiritual bodies.

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IMPORTANT: Repeat affirmations and techniques until you feel joy and relief.

Before this, you can feel pain or body aches. In that case, do not stop. Continue to repeat the affirmations. You will surely feel better. First, something sticky and heavy will slip away from you. Then it will be easier for you to breathe. Your throat, then your head and the rest of your body free. You will feel light and warm.

How to forgive betrayal, betrayal of a loved one?

IMPORTANT: Do not concentrate on revenge.

Better focus on making you feel good. Make the situation with the offender insignificant for you.

For this, take care of yourself, find a new hobby. Believe that the next man will be much better than the former. Remember, the abuser still learns about your successes and regrets.
Read the motivating tales of Irina Semina on love and forgiveness. Fairy tales "I will not forgive", "About resentment to Pereterovna", "Cupid affairs" and others suit you.
Wear pink quartz ornaments on your neck. He will help to love himself again and without fear start a new relationship with a worthy man.

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How to forgive a person in the shower?

Start with thanks.

IMPORTANT: Gratitude is the ability to learn from any life situation.

Find the pros in the event. Think that offense is a great incentive to learn to forgive. And forgiveness will make you spiritually stronger and happier, etc.
Get ready for something that does not work out right away. You will need time to get used to a new way of thinking. Do you want the process to go faster? Read books about people who knew how to be happy even in a difficult situation. One of them is Pollyanna, the heroine of the books of Elinora Porter.

will help you with fairy tale therapy. This is the direction in practical psychology. Read and think through tales of gratitude. For example, "My happiness is pop-eyed" by Irina Semina.

Make fun of yourself. Try to imagine what happened with a comical point of view. Did the abuser painfully remind you of some weakness of yours? Then mentally bring your fault to absurdity. Laugh at him with all your heart. After all, the healing power of laughter is enormous! Learning to joke over yourself, you yourself will become immune to resentment. Then you automatically forgive a person.

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How to tell a person what you forgive?

How can you tell a person what you have forgiven? Do I have to do this? No. He will guess by your conduct. Feels that you are no longer angry with him.
What if you do not communicate now? Depends on the situation.

• The first case.

You analyzed what happened on a sober head. You realized that you do not want to continue communication. Then do not tell the former offender about your decision. Why not renew contact.

• The second case of

A man is dear to you. You want to make up. Then it is necessary to say.

Make sure that forgiveness is sincere. Do not hide the grievance behind a taut smile or insincere wishes of happiness and health. Better be honest with yourself. Once and for all, understand: forgiveness is the best solution for you and your health.

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