That's how you live with a person for a while, you love him, trust him, build grandiose plans for the future, and then bang - and find out that your favorite hubby is still that walker to the left.
Shock, pain, resentment, anger - the whole range of feelings of a deceived woman can not be described.
But the most difficult thing is to decide how behaves after the betrayal of the husband , how to show him, he wounded you so badly, but not be a helpless victim.
And anyway, what to do with a traitor: to leave the most, forgive, drive out to his mistress?
How to behave after the betrayal of her husband? Watching what it was for treason. ..
Betraying a loved one is a disgusting act and yet - betrayal of change is different.
It's one thing if your husband for a long time changes you with his mistress and does not intend to quit, telling that they have a big lyuboff, completely different if he sinned once under emollient circumstances( having drunk too much, for example).
Sometimes, given the swagger and immorality of some young ladies, a man from a hunter turns into a victim.
Girlfriend of my friend Xenia was in a situation when it was necessary to decide how to behave after the betrayal of her husband.
Spouse Ksenia Oleg - avid fisherman and hunter, a woman does not like marching conditions, so rarely accompanies her husband to nature.
Once, one friend, with whom Oleg often fishes together, took his girl to go fishing with him overnight, and the one who does not miss the men's company is his girlfriend.
This very friend fell on Oleg at first sight.
The man immediately cooled the girl's ardor, explaining that he was happily married, and here he came to fish.
In the evening Oleg drank too much and went early to sleep in the tent.
The brave girl, climbing up to him naked, did everything to make treason happen.
The next morning, Oleg woke up with a headache and a feeling that he had done something terrible.
Doubt was dispelled when he saw a stripped-out young lady next to him.
Xenia and Oleg managed to survive this betrayal.
Man tried his best to keep the family and even fishing has ceased to get carried away, so as not to upset his beloved woman.
So, as you can see, there are different kinds of betrayals, and when deciding how to behave, it is necessary to take into account both the circumstances of infidelity and the further intentions of the spouse.
How to behave the first few days after the betrayal of her husband?
If you just learned that your spouse is cheating on you, it's incredibly difficult to control the surging emotions, and yet you need to try your best not to make a mess, which you will then have to dissolve.
The most reasonable thing to do after a husband's infidelity is to do nothing.
Do not roll scandals, do not rush his things, do not run to your mistress, to piss her off all the patls, do not drive her to her husband, do not say words you will regret.
Give yourself a little time to restore and restore your feelings and emotions, and then, having regained your ability to reason, you will begin to decide how to behave further.
Immediately after receiving such unpleasant news, tell your husband: "I'm not ready to decide anything now. We'll talk to you later. "
Take a week for reflection and relaxation.
Ask your husband to leave your shared apartment for a while.
Is it worth while to forgive treason?
If it turns out, then take a week off at work and go to a sanatorium or a spa resort.
Children, if you have them, it is better to leave to the care of relatives or the same spouse - he is their father, after all.
How to behave after the betrayal of her husband?
Here's the week that you asked your spouse for a timeout.
During this time, you should have been at least a little, but calm down and gather strength for the first conversation.
It is very important not to delay it for a long time.
During the first conversation with an unfaithful husband, you need to find out:
- The circumstances of treason.
- Who is the infection with which your spouse has sinned.
- What are the further intentions of your hubby: he still loves you and will try to save his family with all his strength or he has already packed his bags to go to his mistress.
During the conversation with her husband you need to behave calmly and with restraint.
Shouts, tears and hysteria will only prevent you from taking a measured decision and getting the information you need.
Why do men change?
Show( or even better - tell) your wife how painfully he did to you, how he wounded and insulted, but you should not turn such a serious conversation into a farce or soap opera, otherwise nothing good will come out of your conversation.
How not to behave after the betrayal of her husband?
Very often women choose the wrong line of conduct with the wrong spouse, with their own hands, bringing the death of their marriage to an end.
So, you can not behave with your husband after his betrayal:
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Aggressive.
Throw at him with his fists, throw food at him, beat the windows in the house, etc.
God forbid, cripple or inadvertently kill him - find yourself in prison.
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It does not matter.
No need to rush with phrases "I do not care about you and your treason!"Go where you want, I do not care ", etc.
With these words you push the husband away, and there is no way to save the marriage.
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Humiliated.
Do not you dare lie in his legs and beg: "Do not go, I'll forgive everything, you can meet her even further, just do not leave me."
Do you have a pride or not? !
How to behave after the betrayal of a husband who decided to stay?
Suppose you found out that treason was a one-off with an unfamiliar young lady in stupidity or booze.
Or even a mistress for a while was present in the life of your spouse, but now he has changed his mind, understood how he loves you and asks him to forgive, thus giving a second chance to your marriage.
Forgiving or not a traitor, you must decide for yourself.
Focus on:
- Your feelings: you love him so far or betrayal has destroyed your love.
- Character traits and qualities of her husband: can he be trusted when he says that this will not happen again.
- Knowing yourself: are you at all capable of forgiveness.
If you decide to forgive your husband after treason, then start behaving with him as if nothing had happened.
If you constantly remind him of the perfect sin and use infidelity as a whip to train a spouse, nothing good will come out of such a marriage.
Another useful tip for those who do not know what to do after the betrayal of her husband,
is voiced in the video:
How to behave after the betrayal of her husband, who decided to leave?
Alas, but quite often the spouse does not give his wife a chance to make a decision, but simply declares: "Forgive me, dear, but I'm going to another woman, because I love her more."
To the pain of the betrayal of her husband is mixed with the suffering of being abandoned for another.
How to behave in this case?
On some sites devoted to the theme of male treason, the authors give advice: "Fight for it."
Well, I do not know if it's so dear to you, you can rush into battle, but I would recommend remembering your pride and learning to live on without it.
Why do you need a dog that easily changes you to another one.
Well, will you return it with all the truths and crooks and where is the guarantee that soon the next lover will not loom on the horizon?
Try to forgive and the traitor-husband, and the woman to whom he left.
Do not curse them, do not try to retaliate or spoil them.
God is their judge.
Your building is to find love again and become happy.
And for this you need to throw out of your life the old waste, clean up your appearance, demonstrate with all your might: "I'm not a victim and I'm not divorced!" And believe that everything will be all right for you.
Only you decide, how to behave after the betrayal of her husband .
But I ask you: do not do under the influence of emotions of what you will regret later.